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s/o confusing families, age differences and LSAT games
My family tree can be a wills problem.
My dad has had 4 wives. He had 3 kids with wife 1, 2 kids with wife 2, 2 kids with wife 3 while married to wife 4, who was also wife 2.
So he has great grandchildren older than his youngest child. I have siblings ranging from ages 47 to 3 (I am 30).
Which kid am I?! J/k, you don't have the info to be able to figure that out. But this does make my whole family very confusing (let's not get into my mom and her 6 sisters). I once failed my own identity test with my credit card company because they asked the age group of a "John Smith" in my family and it could have been an uncle, cousin, or a cousin's kid. So I picked the wrong guy to answer about and I was wrong.
DH's extended family is also confusing (however, one of his cousins is French and Italian royalty and I got excited when I heard that), but his immediate family is easy. MIL, FIL and him. Love it.
Re: s/o confusing families, age differences and LSAT games
Wow! That would be really confusing.
My immediate family is really easy, but both my parents are one of 5 siblings that are spread out in age, so the generations in the extended family get confusing. One of my cousins is already a grandparent, so that means that the generation that's 2 after me is already born. My grandma was a great-great-grandma when she died at age 95.
Mine is pretty confusing:
Bio mom got pregnant at 18, gave birth to me 1 day before her 19th bday (no longer with bio dad...sort of a short relationship, just kids fooling around). Maternal grandparents adopted me. Bio mom subsequently marries bio dad's BROTHER. I am raised to think of bio mom as my sister, and bio uncles as brothers. Bio mom's husband (bio uncle) is now considered a brother in law. Still no word from bio dad.
Fast forward 23 years. Bio mom gets pregnant by new husband (thankfully of no blood relation to me this time), decides to keep child. I now have a half brother (by blood) who is also my nephew by law. Half-brother will be 7 this November.
In short: my sister is my mom, my brothers are my uncles, my parents are my grandparents, and I have a half brother/nephew hanging around. Never met my bio dad, but had a long standing brother-in-law relationship with his brother.
My family is pretty straightforward, but this all reminds me of the scene in 'You've got Mail' with Joe Fox (Tom Hanks) revealing that the six year old girl is his 'Aunt' Annabel and the three year old boy is his brother.
'We are,' he says, 'An American family.'
Mine in no way compares to that type of confusion, but I do have a half-brother or sister that I've never met and is my exact same age.
My dad cheated on my mom (they weren't married yet) while she was pregnant with me and knocked the lady up. Both my mom and she were due within weeks of each other. The other lady came over to my mom's house to tell her.
I always thought it was strange that me and this other person are walking around with the same DNA and don't know a thing about each other and wouldn't know it if we met on the street.
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Onesly - holy crap!
I generally don't really go beyond cousins because family trees confuse me. I guess they are becoming obsolete anyway. Maybe it should be a family spider web now.
Good thing it's not a half-brother. That is a lifetime movie (We didn't know!) waiting to happen.
It may be a half brother--I don't know! But my mom knows who the other lady is and has assured me she wouldn't have let that happen.
My half-sibling doesn't know and was raised to think his/her stepfather is his/her bio dad from what my mom knows. I wouldn't be shocked to learn my dad has other kids out there somewhere...he wasn't the most stand up guy in his youth. But he is a good guy now!
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This is fun.
I'm adopted too but onesly takes the cake. Biological mom had 2 previous children whom she had given up for adoption with at least one other baby daddy. Bio dad was married and divorced with 2 kids. My brother is adopted (from another family) but no known bio siblings.
Onesly - that's the stuff of movies!
Jetur - holy complicated! Not to pry but between the above and your reference to cult growing up you have me very intrigued! Is the while married to wife 4 in relation with religion or just plain cheating?