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Yahoo article.... (swiped from BNOTB)
10 Things Not to Say to your Childfree Friends
Just sort of an interesting read.
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Re: Yahoo article.... (swiped from BNOTB)
I think that's a good article. I think there's nothing wrong with deciding to have kids, but my child shouldn't be the focus of all my time spent with my friends. I am that mom that makes a specific point to have "kid free" time and conversations with my friends. It even bugs me when all people talk about are their kids. I'm not just a mom, I have a career, I have hobbies, I have other things in my life besides my kid. But don't get me wrong, I love ben to the end of the world and back.:)
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Is it rude if I send this to my friends with kids
all of my friends w/ kids have said/done of the things on the list, some have done almost all of them....
Good for you! I'm lucky that most of my friends carry this attitude. Of all my local friends, we're the only ones childless (the last sets are expecting currently). I love talking about my friends' kids because I truly love all those kids, but it's nice to talk about other things going in their lives, too, because I know they all have lives outside of their kids. I mean, that's what initially made us friends in the first place! It's also nice to know that they care to hear about me, too.
I really love the article. Especially #2 (We always wanted to have a family). I absolutely hate it when people say to me "when you have a family" or "start a family". I'm dumbfounded because I do have a family. I started my family when we got married. Not having a kid does not make my family and less of one than it would if we had one.
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I'm with Jess on this one. I have been a mom a long time and I have never been that mom that only has babies and kids on the brain. I succesfully maintained all my meaningful friendships with my (at the time) childless friends. My friends didn't start having kids until about 4 years ago and at that time I already had a 6 year old so I was the only mom around for a long time. I think because my life didn't center around my child, in that she's all I spoke about or let having a kid stop me from being me, I was able to keep up my friendships which are still going strong.
As far as Andrew's side of friends go. They are having kids now too but all the girls talk about is baby this and baby that. Before we got along great and had fun together but now they let their kids take over their lives and conversations so I have distanced my self from them. I don't want to hear about your baby 24/7. I would like some normal adult interaction about life outside of kids.
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#10 drives me fvckin insane when I hear that from parents.
I am totally guilty of #9, but I was guilty of this before I had N too.
But other then that I completely agree with this list. I actually, like to talk about things other then my kid, and often I am not the first one to bring her up.