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Moving in with MIL in December.

Not sure for how long, but we will be moving in with her to help save money for renovations, etc. We had an open discussion about what was expected from us and her. I think it's going to be an adventure, for sure.

Anyone have any experience living with in-laws?  Good or bad. :)

Re: Moving in with MIL in December.

  • Renovations at the apt., or at a new house, or at MIL's.  I'm confused.  

     

    Also, you are crazy.  Good luck and godspeed. 

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  • imageLeg de Nico:

    Renovations at the apt., or at a new house, or at MIL's.  I'm confused.  

     

    Also, you are crazy.  Good luck and godspeed. 

    New place, when we find one. We're not renewing our lease here. To break it is crazy expensive. As is month to month. 

    Eh. I think crazier things have happened. :) 

  • I'm confused too.
    Before we bought our house, we lived on the 1st floor of my grandmother's 2 family. We had our own space so it wasn't like we actually lived with her, but it was pretty damn close.
    My grandmother is the mean version of Marie from Everybody Loves Raymond. She means well, but god help you if you don't do things her way. I kept reminding myself & DH of how much money we were saving & what our goal was. That made it a little easier to tolerate & we appreciated our end result even more.
    Good luck.
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    I'm confused too.
    Before we bought our house, we lived on the 1st floor of my grandmother's 2 family. We had our own space so it wasn't like we actually lived with her, but it was pretty damn close.
    My grandmother is the mean version of Marie from Everybody Loves Raymond. She means well, but god help you if you don't do things her way. I kept reminding myself & DH of how much money we were saving & what our goal was. That made it a little easier to tolerate & we appreciated our end result even more.
    Good luck.

    LOL@ the mean version. Oh boy.  I think I kind of vaguely remember you posting about living there, and there was a break it or something weird, right?

     I need more coffee.

    We're currently looking for a place, and in order to save money for renovations and closing we're moving in with MIL instead of renewing our current lease. 

  • Best of luck! I don't have a MIL, but I about went crazy living with my own mother for a few months when we first moved down here. 
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  • imageMrsChelseaP09:
    Best of luck! I don't have a MIL, but I about went crazy living with my own mother for a few months when we first moved down here. 

    Thanks! How did you avoid going completely crazy? I couldn't live with my mother. I'd rather do a zillion other things.  

  • I've lived with my ILs since June 3, 2009, and it sucks so much more than you think. But for me, its totally different circumstances, so hopefully for you it won't be terrible. 
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  • If it was MIL - I'd probably take the baby and run away.  There's no way I could live with that crazy woman.  We did live with my mom before our house was done, and it worked out okay.  She worked a lot, H was commuting to Orlando, and I worked a ton.  She had a big house, and it was no biggie 95% of the time.  It did make our sex life a little more complicated.

    That said, we're considering having my mom move in for a few months.  H is traveling just about every week, and it would be nice to not be on my own, all the time.  And financially, it would help us pay off Kennedy's medical bills and save for the down payment on (another) house when we have to move.

    I guess you just have to remember the reason you're doing it.  Hopefully there's enough space that you'll have some privacy.  Good luck.

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    imagejen812:
    I'm confused too.
    Before we bought our house, we lived on the 1st floor of my grandmother's 2 family. We had our own space so it wasn't like we actually lived with her, but it was pretty damn close.
    My grandmother is the mean version of Marie from Everybody Loves Raymond. She means well, but god help you if you don't do things her way. I kept reminding myself & DH of how much money we were saving & what our goal was. That made it a little easier to tolerate & we appreciated our end result even more.
    Good luck.

    LOL@ the mean version. Oh boy.  I think I kind of vaguely remember you posting about living there, and there was a break it or something weird, right?

     I need more coffee.

    We're currently looking for a place, and in order to save money for renovations and closing we're moving in with MIL instead of renewing our current lease. 

    Lol, yeah that's right. I forgot about that. I wish I kept a journal, I'd have a pretty funny book by now. The story you're thinking of is when I found a large kitchen knife on the stairs leading up to her house. No one knows how it got there.
    Do you remember when my H's plumber friend came over & she was caressing his bald head, making comments how bald men make great lovers? Ewwww.
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    imageMrsChelseaP09:
    Best of luck! I don't have a MIL, but I about went crazy living with my own mother for a few months when we first moved down here. 

    Thanks! How did you avoid going completely crazy? I couldn't live with my mother. I'd rather do a zillion other things.  

    That's the thing... I did go completely crazy! hahaha. I kept her house super clean, and we were barely ever there, but she always found something to b*tch and complain about. It was during the housing boom and it was impossible to find anything available, we jumped on the first house that we found and ended up in Lakeland b/c of it. 
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  • imageMrsChelseaP09:
    imageGator_Bride08:

    imageMrsChelseaP09:
    Best of luck! I don't have a MIL, but I about went crazy living with my own mother for a few months when we first moved down here. 

    Thanks! How did you avoid going completely crazy? I couldn't live with my mother. I'd rather do a zillion other things.  

    That's the thing... I did go completely crazy! hahaha. I kept her house super clean, and we were barely ever there, but she always found something to b*tch and complain about. It was during the housing boom and it was impossible to find anything available, we jumped on the first house that we found and ended up in Lakeland b/c of it. 

     

    Haha. Looks like I might be at the gym a lot more than usual. :P Yeah, I am grateful that at least there are a lot of houses out there right now for us to look at. And worst case scenario, we don't find anything and she drives us (or we drive her) too bonkers to deal with it after a few months and we rent a smaller place temporarily. 

  • You can do it! Are you looking for a super fixer upper?
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  • imagejen812:
    You can do it! Are you looking for a super fixer upper?

    Thanks. :) Yeah. We're pretty much going to have to have something that needs work, based on our budget. As long as the structure and neighborhoods are good, we can fix anything else between us and friends. 

  • Are you looking to stay in the same area?
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    imagejen812:
    You can do it! Are you looking for a super fixer upper?

    Thanks. :) Yeah. We're pretty much going to have to have something that needs work, based on our budget. As long as the structure and neighborhoods are good, we can fix anything else between us and friends. 

    Word to the wise.  We bought a fixer upper and every.single.thing that we have attempted to do has been more trouble than originally anticipated.  Starting from day one when we found out the house wasn't grounded, all the way to the surprise galvanized slab leak we were soo lucky to encounter this year.  Granted, it's more of a feeling of accomplishment when you get these things done, and it's nice when it starts really becoming yours.  But just a vague estimate, I'm guessing we've spent 40 or 50k in the past 3 years on what we thought would have been 20. Good news, we are "almost" done!  If I could go back, we would have sprung for an owned home with a full disclosure rather than a forclosure with a good structure. 

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  • bad, lol. We lived with MIL for a little over a month and while she was more than awesome not having our own space sucked big time.

    We also lived with FIL for 6 months back toward the beginning of our relationship and that was just hell. FIL isn't the easiest to get along with and finally it just became too much to handle and no amount of saving would keep us there. :) 

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