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Clicky marriage ref: spoiling my niece?
H and I have agreed to take his brother's kid in the event that something should happen to him and his wife.
The kid (L) is 3 and she's kind of shy and doesn't know us well. We've tried having them over for dinner and SIL says that L talks about us a lot when she's at home, but she won't talk to us when we're all together.
I've been trying to bribe her to like us by bringing her small presents back from my travels and H thinks I'm spoiling her by doing this.
Re: Clicky marriage ref: spoiling my niece?
I don't think you're spoiling her at all. If she is going to be yours if something happens, God forbid, she needs to know you. Giving her things and having something that is from you will definitely keep you in her head.
I voted No Keep Showering Her With Gifts, because I don't think it's too much if it is all something small and special because it's from your trips. She's your niece, you're supposed to spoil her a little.
I doubt she doesn't like you though, probably just shy. I didn't really start talking to my aunts that much until I was in middle or high school. I was shy and thought "old" people were intimidating even if I did like them and thought they were nice.
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This, you are probably the cool, pretty aunt. I bet she loves all the stuff and if she talks about you she likes you!
I voted SS b/c I don't think you are spoiling her. And yes, you should keep bringing her small gifts back. Don't buy her things to make her like you, but it's fine to be thoughtful and bring little gifts back and get her appropriate gifts for her birthday and holidays.
I agree w/ pp, I don't think it's that she doesn't like you. She's probably just shy and doesn't know you well enough. Kids that age tend to be pretty quiet except around the people they see all the time. If you want her to be more comfortable around you, spend more time with her.
BTW, this poll shows you do have a maternal side!
Now you guys are just being too nice and making me blush.
I agree completely with all of this, especially the bolded bit.
next time tell us what you want us to vote on a seperate post, and we can sway the results..just to prove a point to H
but srsly..if you don't see her that often..what else are you going to do? aunts are *supposed* to spoil the kids.
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H and I have agreed to take his brother's kid in the event that something should happen to him and his wife.
The kid (L) is 3 and she's kind of shy and doesn't know us well. We've tried having them over for dinner and SIL says that L talks about us a lot when she's at home, but she won't talk to us when we're all together.
I've been trying to bribe her to like us by bringing her small presents back from my travels and H thinks I'm spoiling her by doing this
I think the little gifts are fine, and probably help you seem a little less of a stranger to her. But really, spending time with her is the way to go. Go to their house and start playing with her toys, say something like, "Do you mind if i play with your blahblah toy?" and she'll come play with you. Or ask her to show you some of her movies she likes, then ask if you can watch one with her. She gets to be the expert/leader, and gets to do the things she likes with a grown-up (instead of playing the grown-up's games by the grown-up's rules). That (and anything sparkly) is the way to a 4-year-old girl's heart
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