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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
F/U Online Dating: Why you didn't like...
...So, in relation to my poll the other day about which site you had the most success with, I'm curious why people might not have liked another site. For example, E-Harmony wasn't that popular. I have never used it, so I'm curious why.
Why didn't you like (eHarmony, Match, etc.)?
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Re: F/U Online Dating: Why you didn't like...
I didn't like eHarmony for two reasons - (1) you can put in search criteria, they find matches for you. So I couldn't limit on height to over 6'1" and all the shorties were a waste of time. (2) There is so much back in forth with multiple choice questions before you actually get an email. Seems like a waste of time, would rather cut to the chase.
Also, I heard that was the only website where the male to female ratio is way off... like 2 girls for every guy
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I have only been on match so I guess my assessment isn't too fair.
For me, I didn't like it because it felt like I would be investing a lot of time into someone that, once I met them, I would know within 2.5 seconds that I would've NEVER thought to date them had we met IRL.
What I mean is, there is the initial wink, then the emailing, then maybe you exchange numbers and chat on the phone, then you decide to finally meet and have some sort of excitement, anticipation thing going on...and then you walk in the door and think "crap, I really, really hope that's not him". Then you spend at least an hour trying to figure out how to bow out of said date gracefully.
Honestly, I just think it's NMS. I don't have a lot of time because of DS and studying and just life in general so it was difficult for me to look at the experience as like "oh well, no harm no foul, at least I met someone new". Because honestly, everyone can say, "I really like you just more as a friend" but chances of ever seeing them again are slim to none.
I know that sounds kind of negative but that's just my take on the whole thing.
I tried both match and eharmony. I met my fiance on eharmony so obviously I had a better experience there. Personally I felt that match was much more of a hookup site, rather than a serious relationship site. I got lots of messages from match, but overall I felt like the people that contacted me were less serious than the guys who contacted me on eharmony.
Also, I kind of felt overwhelmed by the amount of people on match. Eharmony was nice because it gave me a few new matches every day. I wasn't in any rush, so it was nice to have more manageable communication with people. And I liked the guided communication because it allowed me to meet some people that I could tell were a little more shy and would have had difficulty with complete open communication, although that is always an option if you don't care for the guided style.
We're kind of going out.
This is EXACTLY how I feel.
I will do pros and cons :
I didn't like POF because most guys that contacted me were just looking for something really casual. Since they don't have to pay anything the chances of them not being serious are a lot higher. Although, the advantage is that there was a huge pool of people to pick from.
I didn't like Match because pretty much all the same people that were on POF were also on Match so there weren't many new people. Also, you can't tell who is subscribed and who is not so you could wink at each other, send an e-mail to them but never get a response because they can't read it. I did like Match the most though because you can filter with a lot of search criteria and you can also click the "x" on the person in search so you wouldn't have to see them over and over again.
I didn't like EH because it was expensive and you had no say over who they match you with. Also, most people were way out of my area despite me saying I wanted 60 miles or less. I have to wonder about their matching abilities too because my top match was XH.
Although the people I did interact with on there did seem to be more serious in their search to find a relationship.
This is why I will only exchange a few messages before meeting a guy. I don't even give out my number until after I meet the person and decide I'm interested. It cuts down on all the time wasting of endless messaging, texting, phone calls, etc for weeks before you actually meet.