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Strip Clubs
A post on 6-9 got me thinking.
Do you go/ have you ever been to one?
Does/ has your SO?
Your general feelings on the topic?
Re: Strip Clubs
Do you go/ have you ever been to one? No.
Does/ has your SO? No.
Your general feelings on the topic? Neither of us want to go, and neither of us is comfortable with the other going. Oddly, we don't think porn is cheating and don't have a problem with the other using it as long as it's not used when sex is a possibility, but strip clubs feels a little like cheating to me.
Do you go/ have you ever been to one? Yep. It was the only bar open when I got off work at 0330 from the bar I worked at. We would go over there to hang out and chill after we got off work on Friday nights.
Does/ has your SO? Yes
Your general feelings on the topic? I think it's fine when you are single. IMO, it's not a place for married people to go to with out each other. If other people are cool with it for their marriage, that's up to them. If my husband wants to go there with me, I'm ok with that.
Do you go/ have you ever been to one? Never been to one, but have seen male strippers- it was a tradition thingy in my sorority to do a progressive dinner after rush and the last house would have strippers. it was super icky. they were sweaty and oily, uk.
Does/ has your SO? he has been in the past, not since before we were married. I dont know how many times though- his brother used to manage a bar and strip club, so I assume he went at least a few times, and I know he went for a bach party in Vegas just before we got married.
Your general feelings on the topic? I'm not really a fan. My older brother has a funny take- you go, get all riled, leave with blue balls and no money. Not that fun when you think about it. I would prefer H not go again but if it came up like a bach party or something, I wouldn't forbid him- mostly because I'm not into forbidding things and controlling MH. I'd express my unhappiness, and probably be upset for a bit, but I would get over it.
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Do you go/ have you ever been to one?
-Nope
Does/ has your SO?
-Nope
Your general feelings on the topic?
-I'm not against the institutions, it's just not somewhere I would enjoy going.
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I have never been to one, although I want to just to say I have.
He has been a couple. Whenever he gets sent away with guys in the squadron, a bunch of them think it's free-time from their wives and hit it up. It doesn't bother me... I know H isn't a fan and feels reeeeally awkward there.
I'm not against them, but I'm glad that H doesn't like them. He always tells me when they go and all the guys he goes with say "don't tell my wife!". They are dead serious. I'm thankful my H tells me... It makes me sad that some lie to their spouses about something so dumb.
Do you go/ have you ever been to one? Nope.
Does/ has your SO? Yes, but only to those low class ones where the strippers are older with obviously fake, lop-sided boobs.
Your general feelings on the topic? Eh, I'm not a fan. Pretty much just read what Jilly wrote; that explains my feelings on the subject exactly. I realize that he finds others attractive and thinks about them sexually; who doesn't? But the blatant lusting and/or paying for lap dances? Just over the line for me personally.
Do you go/ have you ever been to one? No
Does/ has your SO? Never been.
Your general feelings on the topic? We both think it seems really sleazy and have never been tempted to go.
Do you go/ have you ever been to one? Yes.
Does/ has your SO? Not when we've been together.
Your general feelings on the topic? They're a waste of money for guys.
Does/ has your SO? He has, but doesn't enjoy them.
Your general feelings on the topic? I used to frequent them a lot more than J since he thinks they are disgusting. I haven't gone in about 4 years though because it's something that makes J uncomfortable. We're weird.
Does/ has your SO? He has not. Women in general intimidate him (he is a shy guy) so I don't see him going in the near future.
Your general feelings on the topic? From what I have seen at/hear about the US ones there is nothing to concern me about my H going. However, if he goes instead of being with me-- then we would have problems.Do you go/ have you ever been to one? No
Does/ has your SO? Yes, in college
Your general feelings on the topic? I think they're gross.
Yes.
I'm pretty sure SO has been at some point.
Doesn't bother me. I went with ex-FI once and I've gone with a female friend because she's friends with one of the bartenders. As long as it doesn't get in the way of me getting laid or turn into cheating, I'm all whatever on the subject.
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Do you go/ have you ever been to one? Nope.
Does/ has your SO? Yep.
Your general feelings on the topic? I don't really care if H goes. He doesn't though because he doesn't like them.
The Dogs and Us
Do you go/ have you ever been to one?
I haven't been.
Does/ has your SO?
He's been to at least one. He told me that his friends bought him a lap dance and it made him really uncomfortable. He gets really bent out of shape about being put on the spot in front of other people. (Not saying I blame him)
Your general feelings on the topic?
I'm really just a little curious and wouldn't mind going just once. I probably won't though because DH doesn't have too high of an opinion of strip clubs now and it's the type of thing I'd probably want to go together.
This is us basically.
H doesn't like them, but has gone for friends birthdays or bachelor parties. Oddly enough our first date ended at one (not in the plan). One of our mutual friends was having a birthday at one that night that neither of us planned on going to (hence going on the date that night), but our other friends talked us into stopping by for a bit. Judge on.
Though, since then we have not been to one. H thinks it's a waste of money and I tend to agree.
Do you go/ have you ever been to one? No. I have no interest in going and I think H wouldn't like it.
Does/ has your SO? Yes, he got dragged during his bachelor party (he says dragged but I'm not sure)....I don't know if he's been any other time.
Your general feelings on the topic? I think they are pretty gross. And I was upset when H told me he went. But he seemed to not really have enjoyed it. *shrug*
haha that's awesome.. well... I guess that's a good ice breaker on a first date? :P H used to frequent one in particular a lot back when he was still in flight school... I forget where, but he always talks about how when he was single the guys would go club/bar hopping, and when everything would close there was a strip club that served a free breakfast buffet with no cover so they would pig out and carb up to avoid hang overs. Apparently it worked! haha.. Cracks me up.
Scrambled eggs with a side of g-string anyone? :P