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I really wonder when XH will realize it's over
It's been over two years since we separated, over one year since the divorce was finalized, and yet I still get texts like this:
"I never get up the nerve to say it to your face, but I wanted you to know that I miss you, A". 
I never respond, or even acknowledge it when he says things like this, but at the same time I want to beat my head against my desk and scream "it's over, when will you get that through your thick skull". I truly thought by now he would've realized it.
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I feel you on this one. It has been two years now and I just got a text that said "all I ever think about is you and the kids" I did not respond. I wish he would move on and find someone.
Oh and the kids are all over 18 and only one lives with me now.
Probably can't because of P, right? That sucks achase, I'm sorry he's still bothering you like this. I guess he's realizing he made a huge mistake.
I have a similar problem. XH text me the other day and said that he got bad news about his grandpa and the first person he thought about that he wanted to talk to about it was me. He routinely comments to me about how he will never find another girl that will take my place.
This! I almost feel bad for him...NOT!
It seems he can't forgive himself for the mistakes he knows he made. He did this upon himself.
I am so sorry you have to deal with this. This made me realize that maybe I do not wish my stbxh would show regret and just better for me to move on just knowing that he never loved me like he proclaims. I think no matter what, divorce is devastating despite the circumstances.
Oh I never reply or acknowledge it when he does things like that. We do still have to communicate because of P, although when he had zero visitation rights I did have his number blocked and it was nice.
It doesn't "get" to me, I just wonder if he will ever move on.
My ex never tried to contact me but he would ask my sister if I ever mentioned him to her when he would see her at her work, even after I was engaged to my now DH. (She works at a local coffee shop.)
When I ended it he wanted me to agree to not sleep with anyone else during our "break" so that when we get back together there will be no hard feelings. First off it wasn't a break it was a break up, and secondly he cheated on me and he is telling me not to sleep with anyone after qwe break up??
I'm glad I ended that relationship when I did.
Sorry I had to laugh when I read this because it reminded me of the friends episode where Ross and Rachel are "on a break". What does that even mean anyways?
Ugh - so sorry he's being like this. I received a slew of texts a few days ago from XH saying how glad he is that DS has me for a mom, what a great job I'm doing raising him, and that DS is and will be an amazing person because of me.
This is the same man that a few weeks ago told me that he will not rest until DS lives with him because DS will be miserable and hate living with me because I'm such an awful person, a stupid fvcking biitch to be exact.
I agree with TEM - it's his way to ensure he's on your mind in some capacity, good, bad, or annoying. I wouldn't think of XH at all, but when he texts, I remember he exists and then proceed to think about stuff.
This. Exactly. Granted, it's been fairly recent with my ordeal. The paperwork was just signed on Oct. 18, but this whole summer, I'd get emails/texts/phone calls (to both my cell and work) from him saying a combination of the following.... 1) I miss my wife. 2) I am so sorry and disgusted for what I did. I want to fight for this marriage. 3) I love you and will always love you. It's clear no girl will ever compare. etc etc etc.
And every single time I'd get a message, it would throw me off for at least a good 25 - 30 minutes. Where I'd sit at my desk and stare into space. Feeling sad. Or just feel like I wanted to cry and hit something. Sucks that these guys have that affect on us in some way. Even when I know I've made the right decision, it still sucks to have to deal with the reminder that the man you loved and wanted to be with wasn't who he said he was and forced you to walk away. It wasn't your choice to screw up the relationship - it was him. And NOW that you're strong enough to walk away, they want you all the more. Stupid, stupid, stupid.