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help: friend is being "kicked out" of bf's house.
one of my coworkers, who i like a LOT got in a fight with her bf of 8 years last night...this morning, via TEXT he said "where can i send your stuff, because if you come back, i'll call the cops".
i can't find the exact RCW that says he is required to give her notice. can anybody help? thanks.
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Re: help: friend is being "kicked out" of bf's house.
i don't know, i hope so. she told me what the fight was about, and it's stupid. but she said it's kind of been going on for a while, and he says he's "just tired of it".....which happens...
ETA: well, i dunno if "i hope so"...because i don't want her to be living with someone who could snap like that at her again....she's new, so i really don't know her that well, but i really like her and don't want her to be going through crap like this.
i want her to at least be able to pick up her stuff w/o any trouble...cause seriously...is he going to be able to pack up all her stuff and get it to her by morning? no. she needs to brush her teeth tonight and get fresh undies for tomorrow.
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uhhhhmmm.....
I know that H gets tired of me, but he's never told me to get my shiz or else he's calling the cops. There's a missing piece to this story.
If all else fails Target sells both of those items...
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well she said they've been fighting for "some-time"..i don't know how long that is...my guess is that he has anger issues..which triggered the "or i'll call the cops" comment...or that they've broken up several times before in the last 8 years.
i think she'd be fine calling the police or somebody for an escort to the house to pick up her stuff. i really don't know how good/bad the situation is..but she was a mess this morning when she got the text, and it hurts me to see someone, anyone like that.
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jumped ship to the new and improved nest. back to TB for baby boards.
♥ bfp1 06/14/2011 ♥ edd 02/22/2012 ♥
♥ baby jennlin born on 02/15/2012 ♥
who says you can only wear your wedding dress once?
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yeah, i don't know if he counts as a "landlord", but i know that if they *really* took it to court, his parents could designate him as an official property manager or something...she said they've been doing remodels on the house for years..so i hate that she's losing out on her investment in it. but..yeah..for the best, if he really is a bad guy....which i don't know much about.
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unless there's some sort of lease or contract I don't think she has any legal claim to entering the property.
If she does go back she should send someone for her or have an escort go with her. This doesn't sound like a good or safe at all.
not to be a jackhole, but this is something she should have thought about before she started sinking money in to a property that she doesn't own or have any legal rights to.
I'm with UW. It's a harsh lesson to learn, but unless someone is bound to you legally, never assume anything.
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really? even if she's lived there for a long time? have you seen that one movie.....it's like 10-15 yrs old comedy...called love stinks..or something. this guy and gf break up, and she sues him and the situation is "worse than a divorce". doesn't she become a legal occupant of that home if she stays there X amount of time, receives mail there, etc? or did hollywood lie to me?
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agree--but "these days" so many people live together, etc way before marriage and do things jointly *like* a married couple....not something i would do personally, but again....it happens...
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I don't know for sure, but I think Hollywood lied to you.
Washington isn't a common law marriage state.
the commonlaw marriage thing i know about..because my brother always claimed that him and his ex were common-law married, which they are/were not.
but what about residency? doesn't she at least have a right on where she's living?
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jumped ship to the new and improved nest. back to TB for baby boards.
My guess is no. She has a right to her property inside, but I don't think she can go there to get it unless she has his permission.
Can she call his parents to explain what's going on to have them let her in to the house?
ETA: Here's some info on adverse possession.
I think that when some one lets you stay at their house for more than 3 months, you DO have rights to the place. The only reason I know is because I had a situation where I moved in with a roommate and he and his girlfriend started stealing my things.. and then tried to kick me out... but somewhere ir ead that because he let me sleep there, even though he told me he didn't think it was necessary to change the contract, since he let me live there, i had a right to the place..
i'm sorry i don't have time to google it but i'm pretty sure she can go get her stuff.
and if police need to be involved, she can call them and have an escort to get her things...
this was my thought. SHE should call the police first and tell them about it, say she feels it's not safe to go back alone and needs to get her things.
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I would definitely have her call the police and ask for an escort to get her things.
If his parents' owned the place, she's likely not going to get anything out of the investments she helped fund. She could talk to a lawyer, but it's not likely. Unfortunately, this is why it's extremely important to have contracts in place when you're living together (which is extremely common these days), or at the minimum, to either both be on the property, or to not put money towards the property without a contract.
Super crappy situation for her though
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I don't have anything to add that other people didn't say, but ditto. ;-; It's a sucky situation, but if it's not in writing it'll be hard to get anything back.
WA isn't really a common-anything state as far as I know. I think there are even anti-squatting laws, which is what your friend technically was doing I think if it wasn't in writing.
yikes that sucks. she said that she was going to try and get him to "let her" go back to the house to grab stuff, but if not, then she'd have to call for assistance. i hope it works out for her
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