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Confession, and guilt....
The NYC marathon is Sunday. DH has been training for it since June. I always, in the back of my mind, figured Janie and I would go and support him but now that it's here, I can't even contemplate the logistics. He says he'd totally fine if we don't go, but I know if it was me running he'd walk there with her to cheer me on.
So, I want to go, but the prospect of taking her on the train to NYC again (which I've done before and it wasn't fun), then on the subway somewhere to stand around and watch him pass seems like I'd rather have a root canal. She will not stay in a stroller if it's not moving. I can't very well let her out to wander the streets of NYC on any day let alone Marathon Sunday which is just mayhem. My sister has one of those baby leash things and offered it to me but..........I don't love the idea of having my kid on a leash. My Mom also is willing to come with me but that doesn't get us around the baby wrangling of it all.
My choices:
1. Car, to train, to subway into Queens. See him there where it's *hopefully* less crowded than in Manhattan.
2. Car, to train, to subway to the Upper East side. Very crowded - main viewing area.
3. Car, to train, to subway to the end where we can meet up with him at the finish. Won't see him run at all, just pick him up.
4. Stay home and root from a far.
In any option I'll have an approximation of when he'll be there b/c he knows his pace but we'll still be waiting for a while.....
WWYD ?
Re: Confession, and guilt....
Go ahead and hate me now - but I think it would mean a lot to him if you and Janie went to cheer him on. I know it's a moment of him passing you by - but if he knows you're there, he might get excited about it and start looking for you guys. Motivation, ya know? (not that he needs it - sounds like he's a machine).
I digress - he's been training for this since June and you've said yourself that it's a time suck... you've supported him thus far by giving him the time and availability to train for the marathon - so one extra step to support him across the finish would probably mean a lot.
I'd vote option #1, I think.
Yeah... you gotta go. I know I've only done halfs up until now, never the full, but it always means so much to me that Paul gets up at the crack of dawn with me, drives me down there (listens to me spout on and on nervously while reassuring me that I'm prepared and capable), takes pics of me running, and is there at the end to give me a big sweaty hug. He's my race support crew.
And honestly, when you're out there, the ipod and the crowd can only do so much to distract you from the raging over analysis going on in your brain. But every time I spot him cheering for me, I completely forget about how much it sucks to be running, and pick up my pace.
I also vote option 1, because it will probably be the best way for you to see him, and to make sure Jane doesn't get trampled by the crowd. Plus, in Manhattan there will be so many people cheering anyway, that he'll need you more in the areas with fewer spectators.
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I think you pretty much have to go too. However, personally, I'd either take mom to help kid wrangle or leave kid with mom. I think it's more important for you to be there than Jane.
Yeah, I think you gotta go.
If it were me, I'd find someone to watch Jane and I'd go watch him run. If the logistics with the baby are the main thing holding you back, take the baby out of the equation (if you can.)
Claire Elizabeth 12/31/2011
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Blah! I know I have to go. I mean, I've gone with bells on every other time. I get it, I do. I think Jane is the issue and it's a good thought to leave her behind (hadn't thought of that). I kind of hate to do it since (a) I honestly think he'd be way more excited to see her than me and (b) She's at school all week that the weekend is the only time I see her so I hate to bail on that time, kwim?
Woof.
FWIW he RUNS WITH HIS CELL PHONE and has called me in the past to update me on his progress. Yes, Mile 17 he was calling me like "oh, I'll be there in a minute, what side of the street are you on?" He ran run up to me, gave me a smooch and kept on going
Haha! Well, in that case go where it may be less crowded. Or get off at 125th then you don't have to do the subway, right?
Claire Elizabeth 12/31/2011
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Colleen!!!! That is a fuucking fantastic suggestion! Why didn't I think of that?! I can go to 125th/Park on the train and then either walk to see him at Mile 19 at 125th and First or walk to see him at mile 22 at 125th and 5th. Or, both even. Interesting, interesting. I'll have to see what he thinks but I think it's a great plan. Bound to be less crowded too, I'd think!
I think I would go with #1, but you definitely have to go. My dad has run a marathon a year for the last 15 + years and I know how much it means to him to have people there cheering him on. We've never missed him in the crowd and he always sees/hears us.
Edit: For some marathons you can sign up on the website to get text message updates for the person you're following. That might help give you a better idea where he's at.
I also think it would mean even more to him to have Jane there too, but I 100% understand your concerns.