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Need vibes, please
Hi Ladies,
I haven't been on very much lately because when it rains apparently it pours. And I could really use some vibes.
1. My brother is now getting married on Saturday, 19th November. I am trying to help them plan a wedding from overseas. My brother is getting ready to be deployed and four states away from the wedding. My soon to be SIL is buying a wedding dress, working full-time and going to school full-time. Her family is not any help. My mom is try to do a lot, but
2. Sunday my Grandma went into the hospital and it is not good. She will be discharged either next Monday or Tuesday and will go to rehab for further evaluation for 20 days. Then we need to find a suitable home. However, tonight my mom told me that she doesn't think Grandma will even live to Christmas.
3. I feel so bad for my mom, it is just a lot. And I want to be there to help. This is when living overseas sucks.
4. And to be even more selffish than possible, I am so scared my grandma is going to pass before I become pregnant. I know she really wanted to be a great grandma and has already purchased baby outfits (she started when I got married five years ago) because she was afraid she wouldn't live that long. Up until last year, she was in great health. I am not pregnant. Not even close, although I called and made an appointment with the GP for next Tuesday to get the ball rolling with options. But chances are high I will never get to have the family photo I always wanted of my grandma, my mom, me and my baby. If we were successful on cycle 1 that would be an option.
Luckily, my families wonderful sense of humour is keeping us through it. I haven't cried, we make a joke and more on.
I figure knowing my families past history of passing on Christmas, New Years, Father's Day and my graduation. And my grandma choking and nearly dying at my wedding (EMTs, had to come and take her to the hospital) it would be ironic if she dies either on the day of my brother's wedding, or my 5th anniversary. Plus we have Thanksgiving, Christmas and News Years as options.
I realise these are morbid thoughts, but when everyone dies on a holiday or important events, you have to see the humour in it.
Any vibes you could share to pass to me and my family would be greatly appreciated.
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Re: Need vibes, please
I'm sorry to hear your grandma's not doing well and that your brother's wedding is stressing everyone out!
If it gives you a bit of hope, my grandfather had scares that got all 5 children back for 3 Easters in a row. Each time the doctors gave him a 20% chance of survival and each time he pulled through. (He ended up dying several years later a week before my high school graduation.) You really never know whether your grandma might not recover well, so don't give up hope yet!
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<a href="http://www.thenest.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=HTML&utm_campaign=tickers" title="Home DSounds like such a stressful time for you and your family. My heart goes out to you and of course I am sending lots of good vibes to you.
Instead of focusing on the tough days ahead, focus on the warm memories you have with her, write them down so your future children can get a full picture of this wonderful woman in your life who loved them before they were even born. It is so lovely she has bought things for them already and I'm sure you will treasure these gifts dearly.
Remind your mom when things get really stressful that the wedding is almost here and almost over.
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I love that idea, but she has declined more rapidly then anyone thought, that is no longer an option.
But if she does make a recovery, I will do that.
I'm sorry you and your family are going through all this. Lots of vibes that things go smoothly with the wedding and that your grandma takes a turn for the better.
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I'm really sorry that it's all so stressful right now :-(
(And I cannot remember who you were before, I swear it takes me months to remember name changes... can anyone help?)
I totally understand what you're saying about the baby thing. My grandmother and I are super close and she's 91. She's always, always, always talking about great-grandchildren.
I hope she gets better and everything goes well for your brother. At the end of the day, a wedding is a success if the people end up married, right? the rest is just a bonus!
(((vibes)))
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