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I totally get the whole getting pregnant off-balancing act, now...
So I went off the Mirena on the 11th-- I think by now, everyone and their grocery store cashier knows this.
Now, I don't even really WANT to be 9 months pregnant in August, so I was taking the stance of "we're not actively trying (no charting, daily temps, etc) but we're not trying NOT to have a baby." Trucking along, doing our thing, no biggie.
Well, today I'm about 95% positive that Aunt Flow has arrived. On my freaking birthday, to put the cherry on the top of my pity sundae.
I didn't care, really, and who am I to whine about not getting pregnant within 3 weeks of removing the birth control, but seriously, I was in a funk for a few hours today and am still feeling blah. Of course, I'm also clearly hormonal from Aunt Flow, who hasn't been to visit in 11 years, so maybe I can't remember what it was really like having her around...
This is a roller-coaster ride (both getting my periods back and the whole TTC thing) that I did NOT think I bought a ticket for, honestly. So much for my Master Plan of being "cool, calm, and collected." I am so not Jane Bond about this...
I'm a big dork.
Me:37 MH:38
TTC since Oct 2011
BFP/Beta#1: 13 6/20/12; Beta#2: 20 6/22/12;
MC/Beta#3: 9 6/27/12 BFP#2/Beta#1: 9/21/12
S/PAIFW
Re: I totally get the whole getting pregnant off-balancing act, now...
All I can say is...I know how you feel! But I think it goes away when you start your new cycle and the hopefulness of the next try is back. That is what I try to do.
And I think whether you are trying for 3 weeks or months or a year, it still makes you feel a bit let down. I didn't even want to get pregnant last month because I knew there would be a chance I could miss my best friend's wedding, but sure enough when AF came, I was totally bummed.
You aren't a dork! And HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!
But we love that you are being a big dork, and we totally get it, and we're hear to listen and say "there, there, you're just losing your mind and it's ok!"
It's ok to not be calm, cool, and collected- just try not to let it eat into your brain too much!
You ladies always know the right thing to say!
It'll be good I'm sure, once the hormones wear off! I remember hating my periods for a reason-- and this one isn't anywhere near as bad as they used to be! LOL
Happy Birthday! You're normal
When I stopped BC after 10? Years to begin the same process and didn't get pregnant right away inwas disappointed, which was silly because I had sinus sx and it would have been if I was pregnant. Didn't matter, threw a potty party. I lost my cool and the next month went nuts with pregnancy tests like I said I wouldn't
I was thinking this wasn't helping. Next month...or the next...it'll happen! Now go eat some chocolate.
Actively not trying to not get pregnant = your mind is already a bit in ttc mode, so whether its 3 days, 3 weeks or three months, I am sure the disappointment is still there.
Happy birthday!
I went off Mirena in June and we were using other methods until July when we started to try. But I was charting from before losing the IUD right up until the BFP. My cycles were.... nucking futs. Poor FF had no idea what to do with me. I'd be relatively normal one month and the next month was a huge cycle. It was just insane. In fact, the month we got our BFP, to be honest, FF didn't even think I had O'ed at all. It took my ultrasound tech looking at it to give me an answer because even the FF ladies said it could be a couple date windows. I was 100% sure I couldn't have even gotten pregnant at all. But, after too many days of positive O tests....
Why am I saying all this? I guess for several reasons.
1) I know how you feel. The first period I got was awful. DH was glad my body was getting back in to the swing of it since we were TTC yet. But the first I got while we were TTC was even worse because then DH was disappointed, too. (Turns out we got PG less than 1.5 weeks later, but not like anyone saw that coming.)
2) Although I'm glad I charted, it still was a hassle and a half and made it feel a bit more like a chore. So enjoy it and relax before you launch in to it. Knowing how messed my cycles were before we got our BFP, I don't think charting had anything at all to do with it. We were just damn lucky.
Good luck! You know we're all rooting for you. And it will happen when it is supposed to.
Oh and...
Dork away, my friend! The TTC adventure is indeed just that- a complete adventure! I can imagine your body is going through quite a bit with re-regulating itself after being on BC for so long, and that can't be fun, but hopefully you won't have to worry about those pesky periods again for a while soon
. Hang in there, and enjoy not NOT trying for the time being- worked for us!
Hope you had a fabulous birthday as well!
The aim of life is to live, and to live means to be aware; joyously, drunkenly, serenely, divinely aware. -Henry Miller
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Happy Birthday.
I'm sorry that this wasn't your month. I remember being disappointed every month I would test and saw a BFN. It is completely normal to feel the way you do, and as you said hormones do NOT help at all. Good luck with your TTC journey.
Ugh, I remember that feeling. It can be crushing no matter how long you've been trying or what you thought your expectations were. I can't wait for you to get that BFP. The TTC journey can be quite a rollercoaster.
I know exactly what you mean. When you're a Type A personality and you decide it's time to TTC, you want it to happen RIGHT NOW! Why doesn't nature cooperate?!
I'm irrationally unhappy that I'm not pregnant now, and it's not even possible for me (I still have my Mirena; DH is undecided about more kids).
Hormones are a biitch.