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Ladies who are TTC...
I make a motion that we do a better job of keeping up with each other. Once upon a time, I felt like there were a bunch of us. Now, I feel like everyone who wants a baby has one (IRL and on this board). I realize that's not really the case, but no one talks about TTC on this board anymore and I feel all alone. It doesn't have to be a bitter, woe-is-me fest, but I think it would be nice if we felt like there was still a "community" of us here. Anyone, anyone?
Re: Ladies who are TTC...
Stand up for something you believe in.
I'm on board. My story, let me tell you it.
We tried for a year, thought it was my crazy long/irregular cycles, then at my next regular ob-gyn appointment she gave me Clomid and suggested Jon get a SA done.
Before I could take the Clomid, he got the SA done and there was nothing. not just low count, no count at all. (So I didn't take the Clomid, obviously)
Got into see an RE pretty quickly (wherein Jon fainted when discussions of procedures started..). We both had bloodwork done and found that Jon also is positive for a gene mutation for CF. I am negative, so that's good. Then the RE sent Jon to a male-factor infertility doctor who sent him for 3 different (not at all fun sounding) tests in 3 weeks and now we go on Wednesday to see what the outcome of all the tests was..
So, that's what's up here. You're definitely not all alone and it sucks no matter which way you look at it. I don't feel bitter or woe-is-me (er..ok, fine, sometimes I do. But not all the time!) and a "community" within the Niners sounds like a good idea
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I'll start by spilling my guts about everything that's been going on with us.
Physically: I'm on my 11th cycle of charting, and we tried for a year before I started that. Robin's follow-up SA came back this summer within normal limits, but obviously nothing has happened. My cycles are short, but I've had lh and progesterone tests which came back normal, and I'm ovulating regularly. I have an HSG scheduled for next Monday. I almost wish they'd say, "Oh look a blocked tube let's just suck that sh!t right outta there." Sometimes I think that'd be better than just no answers. Bascially, we're just getting our ducks in a row, before we go back to the RE.
Emotionally: I went Getting Pregnant crazy for a while. I blame it on too much time on my hands this summer. I had "an ahaha moment" "come to Jesus meeting" (people probably only say that in the south) whatever you want to call it a few months ago. Basically, every time I start feeling sorry for myself now, I start mentally listing the struggles people I know have faced this year. I haven't suffered from cancer, or delivered a dead baby, or lost my house to a tornado, or been the caregiver for someone with dementia, or had 2 miscarriages..... It puts things into perspective. I still struggle with the "why?" but I also tell myself that when it does happen it'll be perfect timing and I'll look back and laugh at myself for spending so much time bitter and worried.
I didn't even know you were trying again! I say you count.
Only a few did. With the arrival of AF today, we are now into month 3.
I am so sorry what you have been through DD.
That whole thing sounds really hard. And I hope that you get some good answers on Monday! Your come to Jesus moment is a good point and a good thing to remember for me too. I think the perspective thing is really hard to keep a grasp on sometimes and I've definitely been struggling with it too.
I'll be thinking of you
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I'll jump on board as well.
We've been not trying but were not really stopping for years now. I've always known we weren't just 'lucky' for us not getting pregnant, so when we picked a start actively TTC date I knew I needed to go to the doctors to see what was wrong.
I was dx with PCOS in June, they started me on Metformin, I'm up to 1700 mg a day. I have really long cycles (like over 60 days). We are officially on cycle 2 of trying with the doctors help. They have had to give me progesterone shots to actually start my cycles b/c I'm not ovulating on my own. I'm talking the doctor tomorrow but I believe they are scheduling me for a HSG this cycle as well. If we don't get pregnant this cycle we move onto clomid (or somthing similar).
I have been a wreck the past couple of months, the 'baby fever' hit me hard and even harder when I found out that it could be a long road for us.
I always try and snap myself out of funks DD said, some people are worse off.
Congrats on trying again Kel! Weston is such a cutie, I know all of his siblings will be adorable too.
Stand up for something you believe in.
I'm coming in too!
Where we are at: This is the 14 month. I've been checked out, and they say I'm fine. Everything is normal. DH had an SA and the doctor said he is "super healthy".
How I feel emotionally: If everything is fine and super healthy, where is the baby? I try to think that it's not our time, but that doesn't help. Like diamondoll, I try to think of others who have it worse than me. I know of a couple that's been trying for 8 years and still nothing. But at this point, thinking about people like that depresses me because I can't imagine if that were me. I don't think I could handle it.
Next step: Right now, I'm just waiting for AF to show. I'm on CD 57 and still nothing. This cycle been super strange and weird. We haven't met our deductible yet for the year so I hate to go back now. We may just wait til January to get blood work done, so the money we pay can actually be applied to our deductible.
DD this is an excellent idea. I was at work today so i missed this thread, and you all pretty much know where I'm at, but I totally get feeling all alone.
We just started our 2nd TTC cycle and I gave up charting the cycle per the REs suggestion although I don't really agree with him since it never stressed me out in the first place.
I think checking in on each other is a great idea.
Congrats to both my TTC buddies, Amberley18 and sb2006 on their beautiful babies!
Me too......
We got pregant in April and were super excited, it was a great feeling.... We waited till we were 14 weeks to tell our extended family and friends. We went in for our 20 week apt to find out the sex of the baby, we both took the day off and were going to register after the apt, I called that day our "date day" well that came crashing down when we found out that they couldn't find the heartbeat our world came crashing down. I had a D&C a few days later.We had all the tests done, chromosome, genetic testing. blood, but there was no answer as to why at 18 weeks out baby stoped growing. We were told we might not get an answer as to why this happened. I can go back and forth each day saying to myself I'm glad there wasn't something wrong with the baby, but on the other hand we didn't get an answer as to why. The dotcor said it wasn't something I could have done or didn't do it was just mother nature. But some days it just hard to tell yourself that.... So as of now were have about 2 more weeks left till we can start TTC. And now all I see are pregant people everywhere, and I'm not gonna lie and kills me some days, don't get me wrong I am happyy for them, but I just wish I could carry a healthy baby for 40 weeks ... Any way sorry to get carried away.
I'm in.
We've been trying for the past few months. I'm somewhere in cycle 4. I was on the pill continuously for about 12 years, and at first I thought my body was regulating pretty well, but my last cycle was 45 days, which was frustrating. I started temping this cycle, just to see how that feels, and so far so good (I'm a data geek, so I like the whole charting idea). FF thinks I O'd last week, but I disagree, so we're just trying to do it as much as possible and see what happens:)
I've been a bit frustrated because I'm a total Type A personality and control freak, but I have nothing to complain about. Some of you ladies have already been through so much during this process, I can't imagine it. I agree that perspective is really important, but either way I really admire the strength that you all possess. Although I can't really relate, I'm game for a niner TTC club or whatever, and if you ever need an ear, I'm here!
I definitely think you count! Trying to grow your family whichever way you choose deserves support.
Stand up for something you believe in.
In July, we had our follow-up appointment from Robin's surgery and the doctor told me the same thing. He was all "don't chart, don't stress, just let it happen" (uh, we tried that for a year) and in the same breath he said "if nothing happens in 3 months we'll start IUI." Don't you think there should be something between "we're just seeing what happens" and IUI?! Pissed me the f off. I left the appointment bawling..... and I'm still charting.
Can I ask you a personal question, mel? (You can just not reply, if the answer is no.) Why are you TTA? Do you know that you have fertility issues or is it just something your heart has lead you to?
I ask, mostly just because I'm curious, but also because we've talked adoption. For us, that's a better option than IVF.... and I sometimes think maybe that's "God's plan for us" (sorry if that's too churchy). When you posted the other day about your H's record, I thought "oh sh!t, I haven't even thought about that." (Robin has 2 arrests for very minor things when he was 18-19.) Just another thing to worry about!
We haven't officially started TTC, yet, but are in the process to "officially" start. Do I count?
I've been dx with both endometriosis and PCOS. They put me on Metformin because of the Insulin Resistance. My Ob/gyn has me charting to make sure that I'm Oing and wants me to get in better shape before we start trying (my glucose is pretty high) and I need to get off my anti-epileptic meds before we can try.
With all doctor visits included, this will probably be a little after our 3rd anniversary.