I think...
Keaghan has had a tough couple of days at school and most of it can be chocked up to various things (anxiety about Halloween party, staying out too late on Halloween, and last nights flu shot) and their teacher had a "talk" with MIL that I am not sure how I feel about...
she said she wants MIL to bring the boys right at 9 after all the other parents have dropped off already because some parents have been "giving her looks".... umm what? I haven't talked to teacher so I am just going from what MIL says, but I'm not sure what thats supposed to mean?
They had been doing great up until the other day and Jack is doing awesome... today he went right in and sat down at the table to start on the activity, so I am hoping that he has just had a few off days and will return to normal.... but I just get that sinking feeling especially since they got "kicked out" of daycare last year... they have done well so far this year and made it much longer, but I'm nervous I guess...
Re: feeling a little frustrated....
rules for DCPs
1. only talk with parents about their child. confidentiality is critical
2. be inclusive to varying needs; don't kick kids out, at least not without having a meeting that a more restrictive environment might be needed and possibly having an IFSP meeting.
3. don't tell a parent they can't bring a child anytime they want (even if it's at rest time; my personal least fave), unless a shorted day is mutually agreed upon at an IFSP or other meeting.
4. don't let other families dictate a family's life
5. expect difficult transitions home to school and school to home and support children and families in a positive manner that conveys dignity and respect.
I feel frustrated for you. I hope that things get better soon.
Really? We as a society have come to this, have we? A few odd stares from parents and someone interprets them into some huge problem that requires your children arriving at the last minute? (Because that's NEVER disruptive, ever. NOT!)
What the heck is wrong with this person? Does she think your kids have the Black Plague or something?!?
I think a talk with the teacher directly is in order...
ALL OF THIS. But don't get too worked up yet...talk to the DCP yourself first, because things may have been lost in translation. (Of course, also bring up the fact that things SHOULD NEVER HAVE TO BE lost in translation -- because you or your H should be the only ones that the DCP talks to about your kids.)
Completely agree! I think you have a number of reasons to be frustrated and I hope you can have a productive conversation with this woman. I can't believe she spoke to your MIL about this!
Even though she does....they should still talk to you! They should only be sharing what fun stuff they did that day type of stuff with MIL...you're the parent. I agree with all PPs and hope that she's apologetic. I'm frustrated along with you.