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I feel like...
everyone feels like they don't "fit in" in some aspect anymore.
I mean like DD and some of the other said they feel like because they have issues TTC they dont fit in.
I feel like being BNOTB that if I congratulate someone, or console someone on a problem, or whatever regarding a baby... its just dismissed because I'm not a mother.
And as far as what DD said about people not being supportive, I feel like I used to be able to come here and lay out a problem and get an unbiased, third party opinion, but now you all know me and I know you so the anonymity is gone. If I want an opinion from a friend on an issue, I'll talk to someone off board. Regularly, I participate in email chains with several Niners if someone has a problem. Bringing certain things to the board anymore just doesnt feel right. Like dbucks said, everyone knows where she works (and where we all work) so discussing work stuff here isnt appropriate.
I dont know I think that the closeness of the board is detrimental in a way.
Just my $0.02.
Re: I feel like...
updated 10.03.12
Awwww, warm fuzzies!
I feel like....I need a piece of pie.
But seriously, I taste the water you're handing out here. I love hearing all the baby stuff (even when it was "taboo" to post about it) even though sometimes it drives me crazy just because I'm not at that point in life yet.
And I like reading what everyone has to say, but a lot of our topics have been restricted just based on the fact that we're a lot closer now than we were in say 2007-08 when we all got engaged.
And like MB, I am glad I've made friends with you ladies...even if I don't post as much anymore.
I'm playing catch up. Didn't have time to get on board today, but since I'm referenced in this post, I thought I should reply.
I haven't "made friends" on this board the way many of you have. There are a couple of people I talk to on fb and even that is rare now. I don't have the type of job where I can gmail chat all day, so I keep up with everyone via this board, fb statuses, and good ole pinterest. I think one of the main reasons the board has died (uh except for today, gosh ladies!) is because so many people talk amoungst themselves instead of posting on board. Not that there's anything wrong with that. It's just different.
The TTC thing is a different issue. There use to be a bunch of people who were TTC. Now there are a bunch of people who are mommies. That's really my only point about not "fiting in" in that regard.
We also use to do daily posts (even like spring of this year) that got tons of participation. We were doing the niner awards, fashion posts, PIP challenges. Now, so many people have moved away from the board that those things aren't really successful anymore. My anniversary polls were a big flop. They got like 8 replies a day. I stopped bothering before Sept was even over. In March, I dare say they'd have gotten 20-30. Same goes with AEs. It was fun, but it didn't have that big of a turnout. I'm not really sure why things like that have changed so (relatively) fast.
I don't think they were *that* big of a flop. Even I came out to play for those. I will say, posting the next day's poll the evening before was heaven for me. I got to participate before 4pm and everyone went home. If it makes you feel any better in that regard, I enjoyed them.
I'm late to this, per usual, but I agree. We all "know" each other too well in some ways that we don't bother to post things on here when we can just discuss via facebook or e-mail or text instead.
As for the daily posts that were more popular a few months ago, I think it has more to do with a ton of the ladies on the board having babies that they're currently preoccupied with. I was an exception to that rule in a way because I didn't post at all during the week really due to work prior to Alex coming along and then when I was home with him I was able to post more and I participated more in the daily posts. Now I get on here when I can, I haven't bookmarked this page and saved my log in on my new phone so I don't get on at all during the work day anymore. I don't know about others, but that's why my participation has fallen off a bit.