Trouble in Paradise
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Today is International Don't Fake It Day and a powel
Just thought you should know.
And a powel:
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I agree with everything that muddled said. You should listen to her. -ESDReturns
Re: Today is International Don't Fake It Day and a powel
Right?? why should he get the satisfaction of thinking he got me off when he didn't PLUS the satisfaction of getting his?
It's rewarding someone for negative behavior! "You don't care enough for my pleasure but hey, I'll convince you that you're a stud muffin anyway!"
I agree, Kuus. I've heard rumors, however, that there are women out there who feel that they will hurt the feelings of their partners if they don't get off every time. Of course their partners feelings must be more important than their own for this to make sense at all.
No, I get that. I'd be upset if Mr. Kuus just sometimes didn't get off at all, and it wasn't a weird off-circumstance like one of us got bubble guts midway through the sex. But then, you know, if it was just that sex wasn't doing the trick this time, we'd make sure he got off whatever way worked if it wasn't happening during sex that time.
I don't think the guys are necessarily jerks here. I mean, look at the way people are talking about this, like it's okay for a woman to get all revved up and then just not have an orgasm, that a woman's orgasm is something that's optional. And that's women talking.
True, I don't *blame* the men - if you're faking it, how do they know that you're not being satisfied? They don't even have a chance to fix it.
No, it's definitely not all the man's fault here. A lot of women give up completely.
eta: I'm sure there are men that are jerks and just don't care, but I would like to think that they are the exception and not the rule.
There is not much of an open dialogue for women who have trouble o'ing and I think that there may be some shame attached to it.
This was me for a loooong time. It just wasn't happening, and the trying with XH wasn't much fun. I'm not sure who gave up first.
DH refused to accept this, and it did not take us long before things started clicking.
All of this. I think I've posted on here before that BF is the first guy I've consistently gotten off with. It never happened with XH and I totally gave up, because I had lost all attraction to him anyway.