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My son's dad is really annoying me
I try for the most part to not think about this but I have to admit I am a little ticked off. My XH has not worked in close to 3 years. Needless to say he owes me money for child support. He has told me he has no money, I believe him because I know he isn't working. He told me his girlfriend is paying for his apartment and living expenses. And they don't even live together! Apparently she is quite wealthy. At this point I don't really expect anything from him and I feel like I am better off that way. I can support us fine now that we have moved to a LCOL area although I did get myself in a bit of debt when we were living in NY and I had to pay $1700 a month for daycare! (my son is in school now and its only $200 a month for after school care, which he supposed to pay half of but doesn't). I probably should be furious... but I try not to let things I have no control over bother me. I know I could take him to court but then if he cannot pay don't they put him in jail? He doesn't even get unemployment anymore b/c he has been unemployed that long.
Don't even get me started about how the man should have a job! Part of me says he's 45 years old, with an MBA and at his last job he made like over $150k. But another part of me says its the economy and its very common in NY. He swears that he spends all day every day looking.
So here's what ticked me off about all this, it's so stupid. My son loves the movie cars, and Cars 2 just came out on DVD. XH texts me today and asks if my son has it and since he doesn't he said he was going to get it and send it to him. I'm thinking, okay, you can't help me financially feed, clothe or provide shelter to him but he can spend $25 on a DVD?
Re: My son's dad is really annoying me
He's trying. At least, it wasn't a big expensive toy, like a power wheels or something.
I think that $25 won't even make a dent in the costs of your son's care, but could buy a whole dvd.
(I understand your anger, though).
I understand your frustration
Maybe you StbX feels like a loser for not being able to get a job nor pay CS and this is his way of feeling a little better.... at least he's thinking our your son and not spending that $25 on himself of the gf
I would also consider filing through the courts ....
I am also wondering why you aren't filing for CS in the court system.
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