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Panic! :(
I am in a panic! My divorce is supposed to be final in 4 days and I just realized I sold pretty much all of my X's books to a resell shop after his arrest!! I had agreed to return them to him in our divorce paperwork... knew I sold some, but thought the bulk of them were still around. I was in such a fog when all of this was happening... I emailed my lawyer, but I am scared this will ruin everything!
I do not have a receipt. I had written to him (kept copy of the letter for my files) in late June of 2010 telling him he had 2 weeks to get all of his belongings out of the house or they may be sold. I also gave a letter to his sister. X and his sister (his sister is awesome and has been super helpful to me) both confirmed they got the letter and he/his family made multiple trips to pick up the belongings he wanted. I also have emails stating he wanted me to have everything left. My lawyer has all of these documents.
I do not want to have this drawn out anymore. I want to cry.
Re: Panic! :(
Sounds like you're pretty well covered.
I would still be nervous, too, though. I guess just don't bring it up and see what happens?
I'm sorry!
I told my lawyer, cause I don't want to hold back info and he asked his family to get everything before the court date. I honestly have a vague memory of selling some books for $70, but I thought it was only one of the 2 boxes.
His mom is visiting Sunday so she will tell him I couldn't find them... he has a temper and I just KNOW he will make this a big deal. It sucks cause HELLO! He can't even use them! I do feel bad, it was an honest mistake... but he wont see it that way.
Shh, it's ok, it's going to be okay. The divorce will still go through, even if you breach some of the terms of the agreement. Worst that might happen is that you will have to pay for the value of the books--as long as they're not rare 1st editions--maybe you'll owe him a couple hundred dollars.
The divorce isn't contingent on the terms of the agreement being met--i.e. if you sold the books it doesn't mean that you can't get divorced or that the divorce will be invalid. The agreement is a contract so if you breach the terms, you can be held accountable, but it's usually a money issue. They're only books, I really wouldn't worry, plus you gave them ample time to pick up his stuff knowing that it would be discarded after a certain date. You are still getting divorced next week
He's in jail right? Do a good deed and donate some books to the slammer where he is :P
::exhales:: Thanks. There were no rare books. Most were old novels he got from teaching high school, like To Kill a Mocking Bird and Catcher in the Rye. How do they determine the worth? He didn't have them listed/cataloged anywhere... and they were all beat up!
You don't have to. If they want the money, they can calculate it. I really wouldn't worry. His lawyer will likely tell him it will cost more taking the time to calculate the worth of the books than the books are actually worth, assuming that the legal fees are more expensive than a box of used books...unless he has some crackjack lawyer, it's cheaper to forget the books
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
Actually he is in Federal Prison. Get it right! My street cred is on the line
Awww sh!t, sorry Bec! Don't shank me!