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*Confession*
Claire's post below about feeling like a bad wife because she won't be having sex for 6+ weeks, makes me feel like a horrible wife!! Sorry if TMI.
My confession...We didn't have sex once while I was pregnant. I was so sick for most of it and add that to the fact we only share a bed 3 nights a week, it did not happen. It has been almost a year and I could probably count the number of times we have had it since. At first it hurt/was way to uncomfortable for me to enjoy, then I went of BC because I was losing my hair and having crazy side effects and in all honesty I don't know what happened to my sex drive, but I almost don't have one still. And now we still only share a bed 3 nights a week. I feel awful sometimes, but I hate that I am not enjoying it so I'd rather not do it. 
Re: *Confession*
I'm so afraid of this! I know it can be really uncomfortable after baby and esp if you're breastfeeding.
try some lube and dirty movies. I've heard they work wonders. I think I'd be happy with once a week...I remember when I was early pregnant my SIL was saying how she felt like such a bad wife because they were "only doing it like 4 times a week" during her 3rd trimester. Apparently up til then they were doing it EVERY day at least once. I eny couples that have that kind of energy. haha.
We did it a few times in the first and 2nd trimester...but once the baby was really THERE it was like this thing between us that was kind of hard to get over. And now, well, I'm just a big old mess. haha.
Liz I was pretty similar. It has only really started getting beter since Brynn was about 11 months old it it was still hit or miss for a long time. I had no desire at all. There were a few times I just made myself so that J would stop bringing it up all the time (that sounds bad.) but once I made myself it seemed to help. Recently I read my first ever book with a sex scene in it and it got me in the mood.... so I have read several more.... they really help. Maybe give something like that a try.
I second the lube.
Claire your SIL is nuts!!! Even before I got PG there is no way in the world that would ever happen!!!
Thanks Paige that makes me feel better. I am so done with pumping that I don't want him touching my breasts (well nipples really) at all. I just keep telling myself that Lukey will be one soon, I have made it this far with the pumping/bfing, I can't make the rest of the way. I am hoping when I am done with that it will help.
Funny you say that about the books. I just had a book last night with a sex scene and something similar happened...too bad he was at work! I do try every once in awhile, but I know it is no where near what he woudl like! We have tried some lube and last time actually did seem a bit better.
Claire, I agree your SIL is nuts! I can't imagine.
I was that way too... I'm still BFing mornings and night but all of a sudden about a month ago holy cow!!!! Amazing. I could probably O just from a little touching there. Before pg I could have cared less about that.
Have you heard of the Black Dagger Brotherhood series? Read them.... Jeff really liked when I was reading those.
I third the Lube, though we had sex all through pregnancy and once we started at 6 weeks pp we've been at least 2-3x a week.
There were times that I didn't want to but once we got started I enjoyed it more
After BFing it got better too (but that was only 2 mo before I was pregnant again)