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Friend Vent
I recently became friends with DH?s co-worker?s wife. We?ll call her B and her husband is R. DH and R work together in the same shop and play on the same team in a local men?s soccer league. B&R are expecting their first baby in May.
When I first met B, I thought she was nice and that we?d get along just fine. For the most part, we do get along. But the more time I spend with her, the more annoyed I get with her and the more her immaturity shines through. She doesn?t have very many friends here, so she wants to hang out all the time. They?ve even showed up at our house unannounced. Luckily, they had things to do and were only here for a little while.
I introduced her to our FRO because she wants to get more involved with the squadron. There are several activities coming up soon to participate in. She told our FRO ?I?ll just do whatever Marissa does.? Umm, I don?t plan on attending everything because of LO. Why does she have to do the same things I do?
I don?t really know what I?m trying to get at with this post. I just needed to vent I guess. I know DH was really hoping that B and I would get along because he really likes R and wants someone to hang out with every once in a while. But I don?t know how much longer I can put up with her.
If anyone has any suggestions, I?m all ears.
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Re: Friend Vent
This girl sounds like she's 14. Does she ask you to go to the bathroom with her when you're out? I'm j/k (sort of).
Is there anyone else you can introduce her to? If she asks you to do something with her can you say "Sorry I'm busy but I know Sally would be interested in that."?
I think I'd just be honest with her and let her know you guys need your space with your baby coming soon and its and important time for your FAMILY. I'd get the hint, but not be offended.
GL!
She met several other wives the same day I introduced her to the FRO. I invited her to go to the family readiness meeting that day so that she could meet the FRO and other wives. She's also friends with a few of the other wives from the shop, but they don't participate in any of the FR stuff. I do know that she wants to be as involved as possible.
A part of me feels bad for her because I know what its like to not have many friends in a new place. But I got myself involved in helping the FRO and I didn't just piggy-back off of the wives I met. I do what I can, when I can.
I think I will just explain that I need some family time. Hopefully she'll get the hint.
Sounds to me like she needs a longer friends list, or at least more people that she's comfortable being around besides you.
Sure that may make her seem 14, but I've known people who are like that. DH for example is a little bit that way. If I tell him that "everyone is going out to dinner tonight at XYZ restaurant" he won't go unless at least one of his 2 or 3 favorite people are also going. I'm thankful that he has more than one best bud. Lol.