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Resigning...need some advice.
I was offered and accepted a new position this morning, on paper. I now need to give notice for my current position. I experienced an incident of extremely unfair treatment a few weeks ago (and I don't use unfairly lightly), but I still think it will come to people as a shock that I am leaving as only a few people know about what happened. I am very nervous about this conversation with my manager.
I made a career change to take my current position and am going back to my previous career in my new position. I am very concerned about office gossip, as I work with a bunch of catty women.
1. Would it be inappropriate to ask my manager to keep my resignation discreet? Historically, they have sent out emails to our entire office notifying them of the upcoming departure. I do not want to deal with the questions/insincerity/drama and I do not want a going away party.
2. My last day here will be Nov. 18th, 2 weeks from today, so I will be giving my manager my letter of resignation this afternoon. I'm leaning towards waiting until close to the end of the day to ask her for a few minutes...I really don't want to answer a lot of questions and she is a talker. Is that rude? Should I give it to her when she gets back from lunch so she has the afternoon to deal with it?
Thank you!
Re: Resigning...need some advice.
I'd give it to her at the end of the day. And realize you don't have to answer her questions!
Keeping it discreet - how much of an impact will your leaving have on other employee's work? They may need to be told so that a plan for your departure can be put together.
You could ask for an all office email not be sent out, but at the same time... word is bound to get out (especially if your boss is a talker!!). If an email isn't sent out, then I actually expect the gossip to be even more rampant and/or more people will come directly to you to ask you a million and one questions.
Regardless - with both your boss and anyone else, start coming up w/ some deflecting answers!
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I think giving it to her at the end of the day is not inappropriate, unless you are worried about backlash. Some companies get ugly about resignations and let the party go the moment they give their 2 weeks' notice.
I think it is also appropriate to request from your manager that the office refrains from a party or any kind of fanfare about you leaving. She might well be relieved at not having to plan an event. You can request that she hold off on the email about you leaving until the day of, but that is her decision.
I wish you the best in your new position, and hope you are very happy!
Congratulations on your new position!
As PP said, different supervisors take resignations differently and yes, some ask you to leave immediately. In my last position, I worked with an all women group and the majority of their day was spent gossiping. When I gave my two week notice, I wanted to keep it professional and not burn a bridge with my boss yet I didn't want to give the gossip ladies more material to sit and gossip about. I told my boss, I don't want to participate in any good bye parties or explain my new job with everyone (of course I said it in more politically correct terms) and would like to leave discreetly without making a big fuss about it.
You can't control how your boss will react, all you can do is be professional and give your notice and do what you need to do for the next two weeks.
1. IMO, asking your manager to keep it discreet will only tempt her to make a bigger deal out of it.
2. I'd do it sooner rather than later: rips off the bandaid and prevents issues if she's backed up at the end of the day.
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Thank you all. I am really excited about my new position!
This is only my second time doing this (my other departures have been to other parts of the same organizations so everyone was "in the know"), so I'm probably making it a bigger deal than it really is.
I'm going in now...wish me luck!
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You have no control over anybody else's actions or reactions,.
Resign in the normal course. At the end of the day is fine. You can ask your boss not to send an e-mail but don't do anything else.
If somebody asks you all you say is you found a new position that was such a greta opportinity you couldn't pass it up. No matter what anybody else says or asks you say that. Do not mention whatever the unfair incident was or say anything that could remotely be interpreted as negative about your former employer. Leave with dignity and profesionalism.