more sex = more sex DRIVE?

fisheries+chick · November 2011

I have a terrible libido, and always have. Perhaps it's because I've always been on the pill, but who really knows.

My husband seems to have this theory that we just need to have sex more often--like all the time--and that would make me want it more. As if it would somehow jumpstart my sex drive.

Does this make sense to anyone else? Have any of you ladies had experience with this sort of "solution"? ......or do you think he just wants to have more sex and that's his way of convincing me of that?

kcrawf84 · November 2011

My husband thinks the same thing. So we tried it, and I would say it worked for about 3 weeks...then it had the reverse effect. AND his sex drive decreased. I hope you have better luck!!

kjewell · November 2011

It is true for me. The more I get the more I want. EVeryone is different though, it can't hurt to try Wink

riderpunk · November 2011

Eh really depends on the couple really. I find that waiting a bit makes you want it even more.

~NB~ · November 2011

He's describing inertia, not increased libido.

I think there is some statistical evidence that more STIMULATION can result in a corresponding increase in libido. In animal studies, the presence of more sexual competition increased mating activity.

ReturnOfKuus · November 2011

This does kinda work. The pill is still teh suck, though, sex-drive-wise.

boogiequeen3 · November 2011

My husband & I have sex about every 2 or 3 days. I agree that if we go longer without it then I tend to miss it less and less. So I'm of the opinion use it or lose it. Plus if we go any longer than 3 days we both get grouchy and short with each other. I don't know what you mean when you say the you H wants it all the time. My advice is to try doing it every 3 days even if your not in the mood. There has been many times that I just wanted to go to sleep and ended up glad that I didn't.:) Good luck!!

jannv11 · November 2011

I think it's true. The more I have it the more I want.

keliser · November 2011

Seems like the more I get, the more I want!! Maybe because I think about it the whole next day... Big Smile

Phil&Panda · November 2011

I've definitely read articles about this, and they seem to generally conclude that it's true (or at least, that it can work for some people). If I remember correctly, the idea is that having more sex is like practice, so the more you have it, the more mastery you feel, and the more you'll want it. I think it's also plausible that by not having sex that often, we can make into a bigger deal than it is (as in anticipating it too much, getting nervous or turned off in the process). I feel like this has worked for me in the past, but I didn't really pay attention too closely at the time so I can't be sure. But- I guess it's worth a shot? I should take my own advice!

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