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Dh's work...and a WWYD?

There's a jerk of a guy who keeps using his FMLA (or whatever it is that you get when you've have a bad back on the weekends.  For the last couple of months, he's been calling out on Friday night and Saturday night and blaming it on his back (but he's really partying is what facebook says).  Because of this, DH has worked his 4pm to 12am shift and has been ordered in to stay all the way until 8am to cover this jerk's shift multiple times.  Obviously this is an abuse of the system.  I told DH to confront the guy at least (because MH is the one who keeps getting screwed) and he is planning on it.  Would you speak to any of the higher ups too or anything or just let it be?
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Re: Dh's work...and a WWYD?

  • I know YH's work environment is tricky. What's the relationship with YH's supervisors? Their relationship with the bad-back offender?

    All things being equal, I would suggest that YH tells the bad-back guy, "Listen, mate. I know you're partying on the weekend. I'm getting screwed by this. You need to knock it off or I'm going to take this to our supervisors."

    But like I said-- I have no clue what YH's work relationships and the dynamics there are like... Sounds tricky, no doubt. Good luck! Let us know how it goes!

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  • Oh, and I would also recommend taking a couple screen shots from the guy's FB page. You know, so he can't go back and delete the status updates and photos...
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  • I would completely side w/ your DH in this situation and confront the guy- that is ridiculous. Honestly, if he has no personal relationship with this joker that keeps calling out, I would bring it to a higher up's attention- if he's dumb enough to put it out on Facebook that he's blowing off work to party, he's dumb enough to get caught. Pull your own weight, buddy, or get out! 
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  • That is annoying. If your DH knows the guy well enough, I would absolutely confront him (and take screen shots of FB first -- that's a great idea). If that doesn't work, I would have no problem going to the higher-ups and maybe HR to put in a formal complaint. Abusing that system must have some type of consequence, right?
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  • If his back is ok enough to work the rest of the week WTF are the supervisors thinking by ok'ing it and not thinking he's just being an FMLA abusing jerk? I'd go to the higher ups and just skip the jerk. I doubt he would give two bits about your DH being the one loosing from his game since he's willing to abuse the law in the first place.
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  • Actually, Id go to my supervisor. Even though in most places its good to keep things amongst yourself etc. DH's job is a little different and so are the abusers of the system. Having worked for a PD, been a member of the union and knowing lots of other people in that sector it's usually easily resolve if you go to your supervisor because in those positions the abusers do what the heck they want because they are protected. Your dH can go in asking for a solution, possibly asking to spit the 8 hr shift with the next person coming in, that's what we had to do that way 2 people got screwed but not as bad. Upon being that up he can question the validity of the back guys complaints and time off etc. either way, it's a pain inthe butt and I hope it all works out for your DH!
  • I'd also go to the supervisor.  The abuser knows exactly what he is doing, who it is affecting and how it as affecting them.  I don't see any talk YH has with him being effective.
  • yes, I think proper protocol would be to bring it up to YH's supervisor and share his frustration and concern.  I think the idea of screen shots is not a good one, because it could open up a case of worms that YH shouldn't have to deal with. 

    I am not sure if his job has a system in place for co workers to file a formal complaint.  It's about equity and from what you shared YH is getting the short end of the stick.  He needs to advocate for himself. 

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