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Sex on My Period
We have been together for 7+ years, living (and having sex) for the last 4. all of a sudden he doesn't want to have sex anymore while i am on my period when we did it all the time before my son was born. That was when hechanged his mind all of a sudden, after our son was born (he was there and saw the whole thing). do you think because he sw that, he can't have sex with me on my period anymore?
Re: Sex on My Period
Is this any big deal, really, not having sex while you are menstruating?
he just tell sme he doesn't want to anymore, no explanation or anything. My libido is on overdrive during my period and nonexistant when I am not on my period. It realy sucks
In teh last four months we have had sex, maybe, 4 or 5 times. And we get A LOT of alone time while my son is napping (this kid sleeps for 4 or 5 hours straight!).
Interesting you brought this up. This was a topic between my husband and myself only couple weeks ago. I was approaching my period and I just asked him, out of blue, if it is a turn off to have sex with me while I'm on my period. He was careful to respond, "yes, I don't really like it when we do it on your period". This was the FIRST time I've ever heard him tell me this. We've been together since 2005 and he never mentioned this to me! I was shocked, I asked him why he never told me this and he simply said, "I just wanted to make you happy and I know you enjoy it, so I did it for you"
Now that I know he gets uncomfortable when I'm on my period, I just remind him that Aunt Flo is in town. So that way we keep sex off limits for couple days.
It's possible your husband always felt that way and never admitted that to you. Perhaps he just doesn't want to tell you directly because he's afraid to hurt your feelings.
I know how frustruating this is to you. Our sex life was off the charts before my son was born, then nothing. I had heard him say before my delivery that if he saw our son being born he could never look at me the same down there agian but I honestly thought he was making a joke. It is hard for me to believe that any guy who loves a woman could stop wanting to make love to her for that reason. Anyways, maybe your husband did'nt like making love during your period before but did it just to make you happy. There is some reason he blows off the conversation though. That would make me crazy. Maybe he feels bad saying it was the delivery? I guess the experience of child birth is completely traumatic for some men. I just find that very sad. I really dont see any way around it either. At least your husband still desires you when you are not on your period:)
Honestly, think of how it would feel for your guy's wiener to be in something bloody. Sorry, but truthful. I just don't think it feels the same as if you were normally wet. I don't blame the guy, but definitely try to figure out why he doesn't want to do it anymore. I don't think NO EXPLANATION is good enough... especially if it's bothering you enough to write a post about it.
I think it's sort of a big deal if he didn't have a problem with it before, especially since he's not giving any explanation... I think you need to talk to him (outside the bedroom in a nonsexual place) and try to get your sex drives more in sync.
Maybe having sex when your period is at its lightest as a compromise? Sex in the shower? I think most peoples sex lives change when they have children, at least a little.
Sex during your period is still sex in my book. A little bit of blood never bothered me. The blood actually helps keep everything lubricated!!! One plus!! Seriously, period sex is OK. We put a towel on the bed under us in case fluids get past us. We usually shower afterwords to clean up. Added bonus if you ask me. I get to hand wash her entire body in the shower!!
In the end, its sex. Its just a little messier!!