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SO PI$$ED!!!! Need to Vent!
So I don't know if I've fully explained my current situation... I will refer to BF's family as IL because its easier to follow the story lol! BF and I are living in a camper while our house is being remodeled... The camper happens to be right next to BIL's house. We have to use their shower and washer and dryer. I am able to do everything else in the camper. I cook for us, we have our own TV, everything. We get our water and electric from BIL's shop next to the house. I've been watching their kids. SIL apparently told MIL that when *she* lived with her friends mom it was *her* job to clean up after everybody and she knew that was her place and wonders why I'm not doing that for her!!!!!!!! Now, if we were living IN the house or they actually had to support us in any way I would have no problems helping out. However, they don't pay rent or utilities!!!! They have the same gig that BF has, the owner of the farm pays for all of it! I bring my own laundry detergent in when I do laundry and everything. Since I am not currently working, I make sure I get all our stuff done while they are at work so there is zero interference in their lives. This is the one who feels like I should watch her kids whenever she asks, and she gets pissy when I don't drop what I'm doing. I watched her sick kids on my birthday and cooked and cleaned for her family while she was out of town. I helped out by driving an hour into town to deposit BIL's check, with no offer from them for gas money and they never said thank you. Lesson learned there! They had the nerve to ask what I do all day since we tell them I can't watch the kids because I have things to do. I don't have to justify it to them but I will tell you ladies that I do all the normal housewife stuff, job hunting, dropping off applications, working on our house... I don't sit in my pj's watching movies all day, and even if I did who gives a rats a$$ I said I can't watch your kids! You have 3 other babysitters! So I'm starting to ramble. Bottom line, where the hell does she get off thinking *I* am their personal maid, chef, and babysitter, and should be at their every beck and call just because BF and I live in a camper in their yard? There is so much more to this story but I don't want to bore you all. The highlights include her going to jail over night and wrecking her car because she was fighting on the phone with BIL WITH THE KIDS in the car, ran ACROSS the highway and off the road... Because he was going to go out with his parents while she was out with her friend and the kids... Thanks for letting me vent, if you need clarification please ask,
Re: SO PI$$ED!!!! Need to Vent!
How long until your house is ready?
Sorry she is being so ungrateful. Unfortuantely you have to either livee with it or have a serious talk with her... which may not go well since she sounds like she will not see your side at all.
Start counting the days until you are out of that camper!
Seriously, though - you know what she is like. She is not going to change. She expxects you to do everything for her that she doesn't do herself.
If SIL expects YOU do do ANYTHING, I would tell her that bf is the children's uncle - why isn't she asking him? Obviously, because he was born with a pen*s and you weren't, so you are the one who has to play Susie Homemaker and Betty Babysitter. If she says b/c you are not working, ask her how that makes a difference, since she is not supporting you. If anything, you could use the money and could start charging her!
Sorry she is such an *ss!
This makes it sound like she needs to talk to her husband, and leave you alone. If she feels like she is doing everything for her children without support or help it is up to her to communicate this to HER PARTNER! Displaced anger...
I do everything for my DD and I totally get to her point about "me time", I wouldn't fault her for that... but it is her responsibility. She should have support through her husband and it sounds like she has other sitters she could utilize as well. Sounds like she needs a therapist.
Then she most definitely needs to talk to someone! I always think a night away from my kid would be awesome, until it happens. I had one night this weekend (for the first time in months) and I missed her.