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Kids on FB
I got a FB friend request from my 11 year old niece over the weekend. Given she input a fake age (birth year 1990 instead of 2000), I assume she's below the minimum age. I was also shocked that her profile pic is one of her in a bikini. Her mom is one of her "friends", so at least she's being monitored to some extent, but this still makes me a little uncomfortable. Her profile is somewhat public, and all of the creeps out there kinda worries me. I mean, FB has that age limit for a reason (although they don't seem to enforce it). I know it's not my place to say or do anything, but I did ask DH to make sure her dad (DH's brother) is at least aware (her parents are divorced).
Am I overreacting? How do you feel about younger kids using FB?
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Re: Kids on FB
I do not agree with young kids like that being on facebook. One of my friends has a little girl who is 10 and she has a facebook she added me as a friend. Her parents know about it so I couldn't say anything. I added her and blocked her from seeing my stuff. Not that my facebook is R rated or anything like that, but some things a 10 yr old should not see or read about in my opinion.
With that being said my sister is 15 and has a facebook of course she has only had it for about 6 months and I know the password and check it daily. She can only check it when she comes to my house and uses my computer anyway and my mom does know about it. For some reason I think 10 and 15 is a big maturity gap...
I have a huge problem with kids on FB. That being said, it's really up to the parents to monitor. Even though there is security and you can delete things, things on the internet never really disappear. I would hate for some kid to post something that could get in the way of getting into a school or getting a job. There's such a temptation for young people to seek out their 15 minutes of fame via the internet, and honestly, kids are just too young to understand what it means to craft a "public persona".
I don't have a problem with kids who are of legal age being on facebook, but I do have a problem with 10 year old girls wearing bikinis AND posting pictures of that. SO not cool.
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I think you did what you can by asking DH to talk to his brother.
My stepdaughter is 11 and her mom allowed her on FB. DH called her mom and voiced his concerns that he didn't like it, but at the end of the day it's her call. That being said, we did friend her and monitor what is said/posted and DH will call and discuss things he's not happy with, with her mother.
I agree with this completely. I have a cousin who is now a senior in HS but has been on FB for years. Recently she has improved but she used to post very inappropriate things, specifically very angry racist comments. I really hope that none of these comments come back to haunt her.
I agree with it being the parents job to monitor, but first things first, I'd be monitoring that fake age! I believe when they are under 18 FB immediately makes the wall/pictures etc private unless you are friends.
I'm friends with the woman I used to babysit for, the kids are now 15 and 13 (god I can't believe its been 10 years!) and they are both on FB. I haven't friended them, bc I think thats weird, and I can't see their pages either bc the parents made them put strict privacy settings or FB just wont allow me to bc of the age.
What does creep me out, is a guy I work with... his 16 or 17 yo daughter has a page and I was able to view her photos, and on everyone her friends (boys) comment... "you so sexy" "hot mama" "damn girl you smokin" etc... if I was her dad I wouldn't be happy, yet she has like 200 profile pictures all with those comments (bc they are very myspace-esque self portrait-y profile pics).... just weird.
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I think it's very weird to have something out there that little kids can get access to. That being said, it's really hard to monitor from computer space somewhere who is using your software and programs. It's up to the parents to keep tabs on their kids and monitor use.
My half-sister started on FB a while ago, and all of her pics are so inappropriate for someone her age. I sent her a message about the consequences that she hasn't thought of, and she seems to have tailored things down. I always tell other friends/kids I know to watch what they put out there. I personally use facebook when hiring students for our office. I don't think they realize what can be seen on the internet.
Technology is just getting to be more dangerous than helpful it seems, and it terrifies me for my child's future.