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Is this disrespectful??
I think it is but you have to tell me where on the "respect" scale this falls:
I can't go to this surprise birthday party this weekend because I am doing this staged reading. I got an e-invite for it and wrote that I can't go and why.
So, within the hour that I wrote this reply, I get an email from the "host" saying,
"Can you come after your reading? I am coming afterwards too. I'm shooting a wedding. It would mean so much to him for you to come."
WTF? I feel like that's disrespectful. If I felt like I could have gone over afterwards I wouldn't have replied that I couldn't have come and would have said something like "I can come but I'll be there at ____o'clock."
there are like 10 other snarky things I wanna say about this situation but i'll leave them out for now cause its hard to separate them all in my head. I haven't replied to her because I don't see why I am being asked to re-explain myself when I said I couldn't come and I feel like i'm gonna freak out on her, lol.
Re: Is this disrespectful??
The host is having a surprise party that he won't even be at for the surprise? WTF?
If it were any other type of party, I'd say his question was weird. But, given that it's a surprise party and the "main event' is the surprise part, I think it's not that strange that he'd double check with you about coming later. He may have thought that you said no because you couldn't come to the "surprise" part.
aaaahhhh - good point about the surprise part.
The reason the "host" isn't gonna be there is because shes not actually the host - I mean, she'll probably bring an effing carrot cake again or cake pie or carrot souffle or something else I am allergic too and can't eat. The rub is that WE are the "host" because WE will be asked to front $20 or so over to this "party" once we get there. At least, this is what happened last year. The wife of the guy is "hosting" the party at her house, but she rarely serves food or even offers you a drink so you gotta bring your own if you wanna eat or drink. So then this other girl says she'll "host" which means bringing one dish, ordering other food, and guilting everyone else into forking over some money to cover it.
Obviously I am very disappointed that I can't go, lol.
LMAO. Now I see why you are so annoyed. These people sound like trainwrecks.
You know, it's really bizarre how people expect to know not only that you are declining an invitation, but WHY you are declining. In the old days, you could just say, "Thank you, we'd love to, but we have another engagement."
With Evite, we've evolved to "Ohhhhh, I wish I could, but my in-laws are in town! Next time!!" Fun, cute, casual, but it also means people are now judging your reasons for not attending... and apparently, then calling and arguing with you about them!
That's just rude. Stick to your original plan, esp since they'll probably charge you money if you go. The pits!
Ugh I hate people like this, people who throw parties they can't afford and expect their guests to foot the bill. ?
and honestly - last time it was just pizza and DH coudlnt' even have more than 2 slices since we had to "save it for the others" who didn't pay a red cent.
Obviously i'm completely over it, lol.
I don't get how that is disrespectful. If they were normal people, I'd say they just really want you to come. And seeing as how it is a surprise, it makes even more sense for them to specifically say that it's okay to come late.
Now, everything else is just wrong - the non-hosting stuff - but I don't see anything wrong with the reply and certainly nothing snark-inducing.