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HELP!!!!
Where do I begin? Well I guess the night I went to the bar with my bestfriend and met up with people I knew from HS. In this group of people there's a guy whom I was very close with and shared some "heavy moments' with in HS but never "dated". We'll call him "Nick". Nick and I were together all the time then and kind of went our own ways after HS. I got married & divorced and he dated here & there then thanks to the wonderful world of Facebook I came across him again and met up at the bar (this night being in October of 2009) as mentioned above. We talked the whole night and laughed and both my friend & I became very drunk.
Nick made sure my friend was taken care of and he told her he was taking me & my car home. When we got to my car he made sure I was in the passenger side and buckled in (sweet) he got in the driver seat and well we both shared a very heavy kiss (I don't recall who kissed who first). We went back to his house that I knew to well. He stayed with me while I went to the bathroom, helped take my shoes off, gave me water and Advil, so I wouldn't hate life in the morning and the it happened we had amazing sex! Not once but twice that night! I know I was drinking but I remember the kissing and the sex it was again AMAZING! I woke up in the morning in the nude, the both of us and I stared getting dressed. He woke and I told him I think its best I go. Very few words were exchanged. He walked me back to my car & kissed me on the cheek. He told me to call him when I got home & I did. He told me I had given him 2 very nice sized hickeys & was upset & said you do that crap in HS. I said I was so very sorry.
We barely spoke much after that. Until last weekend. He put a post on FB asking if anyone wanted to go to a upcoming football game. I replied & of course went with my brother & spoke few words to him. My brother said that his eyes didn't want to be taken off of me...and now I miss him & have all these crazy feelings. What do I do? Do I tell him do I leave it be? I'm at a lost. Please share advice. Was what happend considered a "one night stand'?
All I have is a picture of last weekend and we're both smiling and everyone has commented on the pic and said nothing but sweet things. He & I both haven't replied to the comments either. HELP!
Re: HELP!!!!
I don't think he's interested in you. It sounds like he just wanted to get in your pants and nothing more. If he was interested in you, he'd have at least asked you out on a date. But he didn't. He only blamed you on giving him a hickey.
I don't think this is what you wanted to hear, but sorry, this is what I think. I think you're better off forgetting this guy.
In summary, you got drunk and had a one night stand with an old high school friend 2 years ago. He was mad afterward, because in your drunken state, you gave him hickeys. He did not initiate any further dating occasions after this encounter.
My observations:
1.) Ditto PP -- he is just not that into you. If he were, he would have called you and asked you out before now.
2.) The sex was great for you, but not for him. If it were great for him, he would have called you for a repeat encounter before now.
3.) He isn't taking his eyes off of you because he figures you are an easy lay and knows that if he plays his cards right, he can get into your pants again with little or no effort.
OP, get some self respect! This guy f@cks you, blows you off for 2 years, makes no attempt to date you again and *might* have been staring at you at a football game, but doesn't care enough/have the balls to come up and engage you in extended conversation. Seriously, could he be more LAME??!!
Don't build this one night stand up into something dramatically romantic. You aren't star-crossed lovers being kept apart by evil parents, a world war or cruel twists of fate. You are a desperate woman and he is a lazy, uninterested guy.
THIS exactly. Move on.
A male view;......
Before you jusrt "walk away" to the next guy, make sure you have a TALK with him......
.....Just as you obviously have insecurities, so may he and honest talking won't hurt anyone ....if there turns out to be nothing there and you are horribly embarassed you can also have a clear heart......
Really? That is the advice you are going to take?
You had a drunk one-nighter TWO YEARS AGO, and you suddenly have "feelings'? After TWO YEARS, you suddenly decide you "miss him"? What?
See a therapist ASAP. This goes way beyond internet message board help.
Have you ever seen the movie "He's Just Not That Into You"? I highly recommend it. It used to be the story of my life. The biggest thing I took away from that movie is that if a guy wants to be with you, he will do everything within his power to be with you. He's not "shy" or "waiting." He just not that into you.
I know it sucks to hear - trust me, been there. I obsessed over a guy for close to 3 years. I mean OBSESSED. It was bad. It took a while to realize that nothing was going to happen and it sucked getting over him. But you know what? 6 months after getting over him, I met my husband. Bottom line: get over this douche so you can move on to someone who will respect you and WANT to be with you.