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1st counselling/ house hunting/ lawyer meeting
I spent the entire hour crying as I talked to the therapist about our relationship She sympathized and agreed with the steps I have taken thus far to heal and suggested I take another tissue (a few times). She also snorted when I told her some excuses my StbX gave me about his behavior (interestingly my gyno also snorted when I told her that my StbX's excuse for his STD is that I probably gave it to him...I don't have it). It helps to realize other people see through his excuses and that I'm not crazy or misinterpreting things. Though I did feel guilty for talking about StbX
I'm going back next week. My ultimate goal is to be able to talk about the divorce without crying...
Later that day I started house-hunting and found one I hope to buy... but I need to get off my current mortgage to qualify so that processes has started (and if that house sells in the mean time I will just have to say I wasn't meant to be and start looking again).
Afterwards I met with the lawyer to draw up the papers... everything went very smoothly
I updated my mom and sister and the day's events. My sister freaked me trying to offer practical advise about house ownership when solo, by repeatedly saying "You are going to be single..." "You are going to be alone..." "If the plumbing leaks you are on your own to fix it". Of course she is right but in hindsight I think I've tackled most home repairs during my marriage alone (except that garbage disposal... I could never figure that one out!)
That night I had a headache... and I woke up with it too....
~divorce sucks ~
Re: 1st counselling/ house hunting/ lawyer meeting
Dang, you did all of those things on the same day? I'd just be glad I got through it!
Why do you want to buy a house?
(I forget, do you have kids?)
You're going to be single...and that's okay.
YOu're going to be alone..and you'll be fine.
You're going to have to fix the plumbing...by picking up the damn phone and calling a plumber.
I can assure you, after a year of living on my own, I've survived. I DO have someone cut my grass, though lol
Of course divorce sucks but it sounds like you are taking some really good, healthy first steps towards healing and beginning your new life. I hope your therapist is able to help you and good luck with the house!
This whole statement. Especially the bold part.