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mon.petit.chou · November 2011

After reading all the comments about how people thought the Duggars should've quit having kids after the difficult pregnancy she had with her last, I was just wondering - would we be giving that same advice to someone if that was their first baby? If someone got pre-e and delivered at 25 weeks with their first, would we advise them against having a second? I know there are a lot of other different factors, but it was a thought I got stuck in my mind and wanted to put it out there. Granted, it's late in the afternoon so I don't know if anyone's still around to see this.

Mrs_W_Pookie · November 2011

Not necessarily. I think the advice is being given because of her advanced maternal age, the fact that she already has 19 other kids and the fact that some of her kids are not much older than or are actually younger than her GRANDKIDS!

LoonyLunaLovegood · November 2011

If said person is over 40 I would probably give the same advice. If the person is healthy and of easy child bearing age I probably wouldn't no matter how many kids they have.

I don't care how many kids you have, but putting you and your future baby at risk is ridic to me, even more so when you have oodles of kids at home counting on you to stay alive and be their mother.

Martiza · November 2011

1. Her advanced maternal age is enough for me to question why. 2. I probably would not have anymore biological children if I had a pregnancy like her 19th one. I am selfish, I guess.

Martiza · November 2011

I can't edit from my phone, but wanted to clarify. If my first pregnancy was like her 29th. DH and I agree on a pregnancy by pregnancy basis. If the first one was that rough, we would seriously look into adoption.

duncanpowers · November 2011

I have a friend who had serious complications with both pregnancies that resulted in children (she miscarried several other times between and after), pre-e, early labor from 20 weeks on, etc. Several times we really thought she might die. It was very scary. And of course she wants more than 2 so she keeps trying. All you can really say is, "if you're certain you want to go through the risk and you have a competent caregiver, then I support you," because what else can you really say? She KNOWS she almost died and she KNOWS the babies were early and she KNOWS that isn't the best thing for any of them. But you can't tell someone not to procreate if they really want children, so *shrug* that's life. I would certainly advise them to think twice, and I imagine that Michelle did since it's been a while, but that's all you can say.

Kristin&Adam · November 2011

For that reason alone, no. Every pregnancy is different. Factoring in her age and. Umber of kids, I'd probably talk to her about my concerns if we were good friends.

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