Starting Over
kjewell
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Confessions anyone?
I have a friend who got married this past weekend. She met her H in April of 2011, got engaged in July and married in November. I know that she was waiting for marriage to have sex and though she never said it I believe that was a large motivator in things moving so quickly. She has never had any other serious relationship (she is 28).
I want to be happy for her but I can't help but think she is going to end up as Kim Kardashians non-famous counterpart.
"You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness."
Re: Confessions anyone?
Ditto, Only.
Although, my mom and stepdad met on NYE and were married just a little over 4 months later, and have been married now for 21 years, so I guess it just depends on the people.
I can't imagine marrying someone I don't even know if I have sexual chemistry with.
I can't imagine this either. Chemistry aside, sifferent bedroom styles (timing, frequency, etc) can definitely affect a marriage. I'd rather "give it up" than live in a sexually incompatible marriage that I rushed into.
I hate my job more than ever. I'm trying so hard to stay positive, but since I'm now the only processor in our office I'm really alone, have no one to really talk to, and hate it.
Even though I need to stay at my parents for probably another 6 mos or so, I've started stalking real estate... It's fun to dream, right?
Are we doing our own confessions also?
When things get really bad (in life, at work, with my family), I call my XH, not my BF. XH just understands me better. Maybe because he dealt with me 10x longer than BF has?
I wonder if this will pass with time or if I should be rethinking things with BF.
My confession... I had some fun in the shower this morning. I think if everyone started their day this way, there would be no more war.
I'm not sure about the BF part since I'm not there yet, but I do know there are things that happen in my life I do talk to XH about because he knows the whole long drama behind my family. And if I had a BF and it was relatively new, I seriously wouldn't want to scare him off lol. But, we had a very amicable divorce and were pretty good friends before we dated (should have remained friends).
I know two people in my life that met and married their SO in less than 2 weeks. They both have very long successful marriage.
I also think it is the times... short term marriages are so common now days, not that it makes it any better.
Man...you gotta take that for a test drive before committing to a life time of it!
Think I'm going to go back on BC... not because I'm worried about getting pregnant, D is snipped, but because my hormones are crazy! I could have punched someone in the face yesterday I was so irrationally irritated for no reason. I at least was aware enough of my mood to not talk to anybody and go for a run to let go of some of the aggression. Of course, then I'm crying at the drop of a hat. Plus, I'm spotting all the damn time and that's not good for sexy time.
Oh and I would really love to know how good the sex was during the honeymoon from your friend kjewell.
I used to do this (ed: it was an ex-bf, not an ex-h). I stopped when I switched boyfriends.
It's not a course of action that I'm recommending, exactly, more something to think about.
I knew my STBXH for 2 years when we started dating, got engaged 6 months after that, got married 2 1/2 years after that, (so all together 5 years before we were married) and will probably be divorced before we hot our 3 yr anniversary.