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Just married and soon to be unemployed :(
So the company I work at (until the end of the week anyway) has been having a lot of trouble lately. There was a round of layoffs in June and during the past few weeks there have been two more rounds, with no end in sight. The company was at about 60 people and is now down to 25. I knew the layoffs were inevitable but now the morale is even worse than ever. Everyone just looks sad and nervous all the time.
That's the background to this whole situation. A week before my wedding (which was October 29), my boss told me I was being laid off in three weeks. He'd debated about telling me before or after the wedding/honeymoon, but decided on telling me beforehand so that if I wanted to extend my honeymoon, I wouldn't feel guilty (thanks, but due to my impending unemployment, how can I afford that?). Anyway, this cloud sort of loomed over my head until the wedding day. I tried to forget about it entirely during the honeymoon, but now I'm back at work for my final week. The only reason I'm still there is that my boss really likes me and was hoping a project would come through that I could work on, but no dice.
I didn't really like working at this company anyway and was thinking of leaving, but somehow it just sucks, because I'm not leaving on my own terms. I do already have an interview this week (with a rival company no less), and have applied to a few places, but I don't like this uncertainty. We were already living paycheck to paycheck. My husband (then fiance) was in school and I was working supporting us. He graduated in September, but has been having trouble finding work.
So now we're newly married but unemployed. This was definitely not how I pictured starting our marriage. This, unfortunately, isn't the first time we've been struggling to find work, which I think why I'm so nervous. I know we'll get through it, but I just hate that feeling of worrying about money all the time. I just want enough money to live comfortably. I don't care to be rich, I just don't want to constantly be thinking about money.
Sorry for the long rant/vent, but it's just been bottled up inside me. On top of all this, several of my friends (including one of my bridesmaids) have also been let go, which just makes it worse. I'm just sad and worried for everyone. I can't wait for all this to be over. I hope things are better by Christmas!
Re: Just married and soon to be unemployed :(
Keep your head up - you already have an interview which is a sign your resume and skills are in a good place! Unfortunately you're not alone. I recommend going to the unemployment office on Monday and filling out all your paperwork (it's much easier to do in person than online so they can answer questions). Take your last paystub with you so you know exactly what you made, employer address ect. That way you'll start receiving those funds as soon as possible. Even if the interview goes well it takes companies awhile to get you hired and start working.
For your H, he really needs to get a job even if it's not what he wants. He wait tables, work retail, work at a call center until he finds what he's looking for. It could be months before he gets a "grown up" job and until then he needs to contribute to the household income.
I'm so sorry. Same thing happened to my husband - less than two weeks after returning from our honeymoon they let him go. We have a few months of notice for him to look for something, but it's really hard to do from overseas.
That's great that you have another interview already! I hope it all works out for the best... but I know how scary it is not to know when and how it will all work out.
I had to quit my job to get married because I moved to be with my H from a different city (we were long distance). It was hard and we lived paycheck to paycheck for 6 months.
GL with job hunting. And I ditto the pp who said your H needs to get a job while he looks for the job. I still have a job while actively looking for the job. Bills need to be paid and I have to help. Yes it sucks that I've been job hunting as long as I've been married but you gotta do what you gotta do.
the same thing happened to my husband and I. I was in school and graduated a week before we got married. my husband quit his job the same week as my graduation (his bosses and the owners of the company wanted him to do something unethical and he wouldn't stand for it--I supported him and told him to quit). oh, and we had bought a house 4 months earlier, joy. both of us were unemployed for the first 2.5 months of our marriage, when I finally got a job. my husband found a job about a month after I did. every day was filled with applications, calling people in our networks, honing our resumes and cover letters, etc. it was a VERY difficult and trying time in our marriage and I don't wish it on anyone but I think it made our marriage stronger.
however, we had savings to live on and pay our bills so we were comfortable there. we cut down on expenses, didn't eat out, didn't go on vacations beyond our already-paid-for honeymoon, etc. since you are already living paycheck to paycheck, I would advise one or both of you to get a job, nothing fancy, working retail or SOMETHING to bring in income, while you are continuing to look for a career.
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Thanks for the support guys! The interview went really well and I have another one on Monday.
And I guess I didn't make it clear, my husband has been looking for work everywhere and anywhere. Everything from retail to office jobs to whatever and still no luck. It's frustrating and discouraging, but I'm sure something will come up.
I know a lot of people are going through this same thing and things will get better with time.
Those are all good ideas. We cancelled our gym membership, cancelled our cable, downgraded our Netflix membership, stopped eating out, decreased our energy usage, are moving to a cheaper apartment and have been selling stuff we don't need or want.
It's just a really good idea to analyze your expenses and decide what is necessary and what isn't. Even the small things add up.
Good luck to you!