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Late intro
Ok, so I realized that I have been posting, but never introduced myself!
Hi, I'm LadyLissame
A little over 2 years ago I got married to who I thought was a great guy. Well, great guy had an affair when I was 5 months pregnant with our son. I wanted to try and work on our marriage and he said ok. Turns out, he didn't want to give up his little side thing. I found out he was still talking to her about a month after DS was born. We separated. A month after that, I found out they were still hanging out (he told me they weren't. And I believed him. HA!). I told him he had to choose, it was her or me. I already knew what he would choose, but I wanted to hear him say it. He said "I want a divorce."
That was a month ago. He has moved back in with his parents and I am living in our house (paid for by mostly my income anyway.... whole other vent). We are splitting custody of DS with his residence being with me. I am currently saving up to be able to afford a lawyer so I can divorce him. Maternity leave depleted my savings.
We want to try and remain friends for our son's sake. I think the one thing he can say that I will believe is how much he loves our son. It is really hard for me as I come from a family where divorce is rare. My parents have been together for 28 years, and they got engaged after knowing each other 3 months. I always believe in the "for better or for worse", but I guess he didn't. Right now, my son is my priority and I want him to learn that lying and cheating is not ok.
Re: Late intro
I am so sorry you had to go through that. I admire your quality and determination to teach your son right from wrong and tolerance to wrong is not okay.