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Turning 30....big deal or no?
So I just turned 30 on Thursday and honestly.....not really all that big of a deal to me. Everyone keeps as3king me if it has been hard, and my response has been...uh not at all is it supposed to be?
I guess it might have something to do with where you are in life when you hit milestone birthdays too. I feel like i am right where I want to be.
So was turning 30 a big deal for you?
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Re: Turning 30....big deal or no?
Not a big deal for me at all. While I like to celebrate my birthdays I don't look at them as "ugh, I'm ....old". My age doesn't define my life...if that makes sense. I released long ago the whole I want this by this age, etc.
My dh on the other hand takes EVERY birthday rather hard. Ridiculous! It's not like you can avoid it.
Not at all....and as for the milestones | Well, I was married at 21 and divorced at 24. Swore that I would NEVER get married again after that horrible experience. My DH and I didn't even get married until we were in our 30's and I was in my late 30's (ouch) when I had C.
Now, I will say that I had a real hard time with being the oldest mom at school this year (by a long shot...well for kids in C's class anyway). There are a few mom's that I thought were about my age and wow....they didn't age well because they are almost 10 years younger than me!
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Initially, I definitely thought it would be. I always thought I would be married and done having kids by 25, because of course 25 seemed ancient.
I am 31 now, and it really doesn't seem like a big deal at all.
You aged very well cuz I would have guessed you younger! ;-)
I definitely think we women pressure ourselves with these perceived timelines (ex. "I have to be married by age X so that I can have kids by age X") which is unfortunate, although somewhat understandable what with our biological clocks! Turning 30 for me wasn't a big deal because I was happy with what I'd accomplished up to that point and was excited about what was to come (I was pregnant with DD at the time).
I figure, having another birthday is always better than the alternative (taking the eternal dirt nap)!
I was so happy when I turned 30. I was married to a wonderful man, a partner in a big law firm, had great clients, building a new house, and my DH threw me a great party, with family and friends. Definitely a great stage in my life, which I agree, is a big part of it.
DH's bday is next week. He's not big on bdays. However, I am going to start planning for his 40th, which is in 2 years. I would like to do a couples trip to Mexico with is besties (partly b/c I get along so well with his friends' wives, so it will be a great vacation for all of us!).
Happy Birthday to you!!
Turning 30 was a big deal for me. I wasn't married at the time and where I wanted to be by that time, I wasn't in several areas.
Now being in my 30s isn't really that big of a deal and I can honestly say I'm not too scared for 40 but some days I am....but I have a few more years before 40.
I had a really hard time with turning 30. I don't know if it was the "I need to really act like an adult now that I am 30" thinking or what, I just didn't want to be 30. I got over it quick and now I just tell anyone that asks my age that I am 29 forever.
I think you're completely right about where you are in life because 25 was way harder for me than 30. At 25, I had a BS in psychology, was working a job that I hated and the likelihood of moving up was slim to none, and DH wasn't ready to talk kids yet. But, this was what motivated me to start grad school.
So, by 30, I was much closer to where I wanted to be - MS in counseling, 2 beautiful kids and a job I love. I was worried because a lot of people acted like I should have some sort of mid-life crisis. But, I was happy - and ready to celebrate! :-)
I was amped, I am every year. I love my birthday like a fat kid loves cake.
Seriously, what is all this self-imposed pressure, ladies?! I agree with a pp, having a birthday greatly beats the alternative!
Awe, thanks Summer! You wouldn't say that if you saw me today, looking like a hot mess....