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Holiday Dinner Situation

So every year my husband's grandmother makes a stew for Christmas Eve dinner. I am vegan, and last year she was kind enough to make a seperate soup for me to enjoy. After I ate it, I found out she had used french onion soup mix (which has beef broth in it) to make my soup. I didn't say anything about it, and now I am worried that she will make the same soup and I will have to refuse it if I know she used the same ingredients. Would it be better just to offer to bring my own meal to make things easier, or should I speak to her beforehand about the soup mix? Just curious as to what other people do if they have dietary restrictions. Thanks!

Re: Holiday Dinner Situation

  • Why not tell her you found a great recipe for a vegan soup that you'd like to bring to share with anyone who wants to try something vegan.
  • imagesarahbear:
    Why not tell her you found a great recipe for a vegan soup that you'd like to bring to share with anyone who wants to try something vegan.

    This. That way there's no hurt feelings.

  • Bringing a soup to share with all is the best way to go.
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  • You do know Vegans die much sooner than meat eaters right? maybe she's trying to protect you. Vegans lack of common sense hints at this
  • I think you should bring your own soup. Grandma doesn't get it.
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  • I think bringing a soup to share is a great idea.
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  • imagelivinitup:
    I think you should bring your own soup. Grandma doesn't get it.

    Does Grandma know what Vegan means? If not she may not realize that she made a mistake. I would just bring my own soup if I were you.

     

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  • I always bring my own food to events.  I tell people that I don't want to burden them and that I already have something I plan to bring.  Just keep it short and polite. 
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  • Another vote for bringing something to share that is vegan.  There are lots of folks out there who don't understand the difference between vegetarian and vegan.  I'm sure she didn't mean to make you something "off your menu" so to speak and it is probably just easier for you to bring a dish to share than for her to figure out what you can and can't eat.  If you phrase it along the lines of taking the burden of it off of her, I don't know how she could refuse. 
  • Thanks everyone! I appreciate the suggestions. The last thing I want to do is hurt her feelings, so bringing my own dish sounds good to me.
  • I'm not sure why you thought this comment was necessary. If you didn't have anything helpful to contribute you could have just not replied to this post.

    Have a great day!

  • imagebinzy2524:
    You do know Vegans die much sooner than meat eaters right? maybe she's trying to protect you. Vegans lack of common sense hints at this

     

    I'm not sure why you though this comment was necessary. If you didn't have anything helpful to contribute you could have just not replied to this post.

     

    Have a great day!

  • binzy is a troll, I think.  Ignore.
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  • imageloonymlovegood:

    imagesarahbear:
    Why not tell her you found a great recipe for a vegan soup that you'd like to bring to share with anyone who wants to try something vegan.

    This. That way there's no hurt feelings.

     

    This.  A lot of people assume that because something is titled "vegetable soup" that it contains nothing with meat or dairy.  Unfortunately, the only person who can make sure your restrictions are properly met is you.  I'm sorry you had to go through that. 

  • imagewittyschaffy:
    There are lots of folks out there who don't understand the difference between vegetarian and vegan.
    Huh? As a vegetarian, I don't eat things with beef or chicken stock either. Perhaps you are one of those folks who don't understand the difference between vegetarian and vegan either.

    Bringing your own soup is a good idea, but if you think that she might go ahead and make the soup for you again this year I'd ask your husband to say something to her. She might be mad/offended if she "goes to the trouble" of making a special soup just for you, and then you refuse to eat it and bring your own food. She needs to know not to bother making it for you again.

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  • imageMaybride2:
    imagewittyschaffy:
    There are lots of folks out there who don't understand the difference between vegetarian and vegan.
    Huh? As a vegetarian, I don't eat things with beef or chicken stock either. Perhaps you are one of those folks who don't understand the difference between vegetarian and vegan either.

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    lol - well after reading that it would seem that way.  But trust me, I understand the difference.  No animal product at all (eggs, dairy included) = vegan.  But thanks.

  • "I appreciate so much that you want to make something for me, but please don't go through the trouble this year.  I want to help out, and I have so many restrictions with ingredients I will be bringing something for myself to share with everyone." 
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