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Finance & Relationships
Would you date someone who is financially irresponsible?
I realize this term is vague, but Im curious.
For me, date = yes
Long-term, serious = no
Re: Finance & Relationships
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
Agreed! But that would definitely be a huge red flag for me to watch... but then again, I can't just date anyone w/o thinking of it becoming a serious relationship.
Depends on their age and if they learned from their mistakes.
DH made some major mistakes before I met him that had tarnished his credit report, but by the time I met him he paid all of his bills as they came in.
I don't feel comfortable living beyond my means, so I don't think I could be with someone who could live that way. I would be nervous that the whole house of cards would fall down. However, I think I can be too conservative, so I would not pass over someone (like dh) who spends more than I do.
Agreed. I went out with someone who had declared bankruptcy at age 25. I would have given him the benefit of the doubt but...Hh's living paycheck to paycheck now without health insurance and will blow $300 on a paint job for his car before getting a cavity filled. He even had the balls to take me to Friendly's for ice cream and ask for $5. No bueno.
I don't want to date someone just for fun so I wouldn't date someone who is financially irresponsible. If that someone is on the path to cleaning up their finance mess and going forward with healthy financial goals, then yes.
I might date them but no long term. Been there, done that, couldn't afford the t-shirt
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
wtf nest for just adding those posts like that.
Anyways. If they currently are irresponsbile and not wanting to change then no. If they want help then yes maybe. I definitely want someone who has the same thoughts on finances as I do.
no.
I've always found responsibility, in any form, to be very sexy. Irresponsibility is a major turn off.
THIS.
Agreed!
There are some people who are more irresponsible as a single person than they would be in a relationship. I think it depends on the degree of the problem...
Most likely I would not get serious with a person who was really bad with money.
No.
FINAL ANSWER
ETA: This does not mean I wouldn't date someone who had been affected by the recession. But since you asked about financial irresponsibility, my answer is still a firm NO.