Starting Over
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So, interesting comment someone made....
I ran into my best childhood friend's mother at Home Depot on Sunday. We also taught fitness classes together so I knew her really well. I even got married at their home. So, I ran into her and today she sent me an email that said "Hey T, So good to see you the other day. You look fantastic! That sparkle is back in your eyes that I missed the last time I saw you." (and the last time she saw me was almost 2 years ago!!!
Anyway, it felt interesting to hear---the sparkle in my eyes. I wonder how much sparkle I lost due to that ex loser of mine!! It's interesting to me how other people can tell that someone is plaguing a person....
Re: So, interesting comment someone made....
I think it's more noticeable than we think. I have had several people tell me that I seem to walk taller, laugh more, and no longer seem to be walking around in a fog. Personally, I feel like I no longer carry the weight of the world on my shoulders and can enjoy each and every day.
It feels great to actually LIVE instead of survive doesn't it?
YES!!!
Yeah. My coworkers tell me I'm a different person than when I was married. I'm happier and more confident in myself and my work. If the change is that noticable to them I can only imagine how much it is to my family/friends.
Funny you mention this; I went to visit my best friend this weekend, and we had a conversation on this exact topic.
Her FSIL was with us, and BFF was explaining the circumstances under which we lived together (I lived with her during my separation). BFF explained that my hair was falling out, my skin just looked washed out, and I would just walk hunched over with my head down constantly. I rarely laughed.
Within a few weeks of living with her, I looked like a different person. The pictures are almost startling.
What gets to me is that BFF isn't the first person to say this. I was apparently fooling no one.
People have the said the same thing to me... I'm happier, smile more and am just more relaxed and easier to be around. They've also told me I look years younger! When I left about a year ago, I was wasted... just really thin, sad, sallow, icky.
I knew I'd be happy after I left, but I didn't realize that I'd be this happy!
That's great that you're looking how you feel
Yay TEM!
People have said this to me too, especially family. They tell me how they're glad to have the " old MintChocoChip" back (i.e. before XH). When I was with XH my skin looked like crap, my hair was dry and gross, and I wasn't even getting my period regularly from the stress. It's amazing how your body reacts to happiness.
When I showed up at my parents door at 2am after I left my XBF and I was crying my eyes out and my parents took me in. My mom commented how that was the first time she saw any emotion out of me since I had been with XBF.
Is that sad or what, even me crying reminded my mom of the old me. She also said within a week she could see "her daughter" was back.
It's so nice to hear, huh?
As has already been said, I think it is more noticeable than we realize (or like to admit).
When my divorce was over, one of my then-CW's said "You just look so...happy." It was great to hear him say that.
Ohmigosh YES! I remember this feeling when leaving ex-H, it is wonderful! Enjoy it!