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Re: POLL: pre-nuptial agreements
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
I don't know, is it worth doing a pre nup over my keurig? lol
I voted no, I have nothing to protect. If he wanted one then fine. In this instance he owned his house before we got together so I don't think I could really get anything if we divorced.
We have already discussed it and we are doing a "roommate pre-nup" when we move in together in Feb (google it ... there are actual templates for it). It will cover things like -- the house is his (bought it two years ago) but if we make capital improvements before we are married and it becomes community property he has to compensate me for those costs in the event that we split.
In the wedding pre-nup we will cover things like what happens to my retirement if I die before ds is out of college (CA requires that you put your spouse as beneficiary unless they waive that). I want it to go to my brother who will use it to pay for my ds's schooling. BF is fine with that.
Having been through it, I just think it's smart. I am actually surprised there are so many "nos"
If I marry someone who is poor, then yes.
If I marry someone who is rich, then a definite no.
I'm undecided. I wouldn't mind signing one, but I don't think he would want to. Our assets are about equal.
ETA: If either of us had kids, it would be a definite yes.
I voted yes.
If I ever married again, I would want to ensure that my assets were protected for my children. Also, as an estate matter, I wouldn't want my new spouse to get the assets that were from dh's dad, etc.
I agree with this... I would have no problems signing a pre-nup... after going through a divorce, I don't see it as being negative or pessimistic, just smart.
I said yes. I own my home and I want to make sure that DS is taken care of.
STBXH has been amicable and agreeing to give me most of our assets.
I voted no. In my state (Maryland) whatever you come into the marriage with is yours anyway after a divorce. So if I bought a house, then got married, he has no rights to the house anyway. Same with savings, retirement, etc - unless I merged all that into one account or something stupid like that.
If there were a real reason to, I would. But I don't see a good reason why at this point. If I marry SO, we divorce, it's only fair to split whatever assets we accumulate TOGETHER after we married.
To go along with carrots, I thought that it was the same in every State: whatever you had before the marriage stays yours after a divorce.
I would consider it. If I qualify for a prenup, then yes I would do it. But so many things can change. I would mainly do one for retirement. This thing freaks me out (spliting retirement in half). Let's say I sign a prenup saying we keep our own retirement and we both worke, fine. But what if one spouse has to quit their job because the other one is transferred out of State for example? That's when I would change the prenup.