Starting Over
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
He left last night
Our 3 year relationship was final last night. This had been coming for a long time. It got to a point where he didn't want to work on it anymore. We couldn't move forward and we definitely couldn't stay where we were. I was willing to try counseling again, read more books, basically anything but I couldn't get him to open up. He wanted to bury his head in the sand and pretend we were fine. I feel like the bad guy because I pushed the decision. When he took the last box out I literally sobbed uncontrollably on the floor for what felt like hours. Now I'm at work and I can't keep it together. I miss him. I don't know what to do now.
Re: He left last night
Amen!
It's always hard. I did the right thing by leaving, and I cried like a little baby the day I moved out. It's always sad, because there are always at least SOME good memories. And making a big change is always hard -- no matter what it is.
But sometimes the hard things are the right things. It'll get better. I promise!
:-( So sorry to hear that and big hugs ((((HUG))))) but you will be ok! Don't feel bad if you need to go home for the rest of the day. You need to give yourself some time to grieve.
I started over on this board and everyone here is wonderful and very supportive, you will be ok!
{{{HUGS}}}
Can you take a mental health day today? This certainly qualifies.
Agreed. ((hugs))
Thank you so much ladies!
I feel like two different people. The rational side understands I couldn't save this relationship on my own and I deserve someone that wants to work on it with me. The emotional side is worried I made the wrong decision and I won't find better. I worry that maybe it wasn't that bad.
Hopefully with time it won't hurt as bad.
You will find someone better...in time. Take this time to grieve and heal. Things will get better
It definitely gets better with time. And usually it's waaaaay better than it was before! By leaps and bounds.
Take the time to grieve and heal properly and you'll be amazing.
((hugs))
I second this!!