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Sometimes Boys Suck:(
So an old friend who I've always had some sparks with and I sort of dated last year shortly after my divorce, even though we got along really well, as we all know dating (nothing serious once a week or so) right after leaving someone is a horrible idea. We ended up cutting things off because I needed to deal with myself.
Recently we started hanging out again (after a not seeing each other for about 8 months) and it was clear the spark was still there. We had a really great chat about how we were both really into each other (and have been for years), but because of our history/long friendship there was a potential for it to ramp up too quickly again.
It was actually really cute and he was like "We need to start all over with me taking you on dates. I realize there is so much I don't know about you and I want learn more about you." Usually we'd just grab some food or wine and hang out at the house.
ETA: That was crazy long! Thank you if you made it this far.
He is super busy all the time and he was honest and said he had a rough patch to get through at work (about three weeks) and that he wanted to be fair and not start anything until he was more available and that he was really looking forward to hanging out. We stayed in contact via text message and things were good.
Fast forward to today. The deadline at work was on Tuesday and I hadn't heard from him which was fine (inside I was disappointed, but I tried not to overreact). Then today has been pretty stressful, so I sent him a text that was like "Hey, wanna grab happy hour after work?"
He writes back that he has plans with his fam, but thanks for the invite. No mention of like, but let's get together at such and such time. I write something back, like "have fun! hope to catch up soon." And of course no response. I'm pretty sure this is definitely a "he's just not that into you" kinda moment and it sucks.
That is all, mostly a vent. And yes, I realize I should have just let him text me and not sent the last text or read too much into it. But whatever. I was starting to feel like something was off as there was a dramatic change in his responses last Friday, and I just wanted to get it out of the way and confirm what I was picking up on.
And yes onward and upward, blah, blah, blah. (can you tell I'm bitter?) I always kinda saw myself ending up with this one. Even our mutual friends have always thought that about us.
Re: Sometimes Boys Suck:(
Maybe he was just too busy at work to respond? Or maybe he was called to a meeting or something?
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
Pestie, this is clearly a much too rational response for me right now:)
I'd let it go. He just sounds busy/distracted. If that patterns continues then move along but just once = no biggie
This... I get that he's busy, if he was REALLY into you, he'd make the time. When a guy wants to spend time with someone, he will find the time... seems like he's treating you as a convenience? Not that that makes him a bad guy.... but you deserve better.
D is a divorced dad with three kids, runs his own company, and lives an hour and a half away from me... and he still makes time to see me at least once a week and we talk each day.