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Confession...Anxiety about turning 30 next year..

Ok so it's about 7 and a half months away. My 30 birthday is in June but I keep thinking about it. I never even really thought about my mortality that much until this year. Now I am not saying 30 is old, but to me it's a step closer to getting there.

Do most 29 yr olds feel like this? If you are over 30 did you stop obssessing about it once you passed the hump. The plus side is that I have always looked way younger than my age, but in my head I know my age.

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  • I guess I thought it seemed like I was getting old at the time.  I didn't think about it much after, though.  I was pretty busy with my little one.  Alex wasn't quite a year old when I turned 30. 
    I am 34 now and sometimes I will think "Damn, I can't believe I am 34 already..." but for the most part it doesn't even cross my mind. 
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  • I'm also turning 30 in June, and haven't really given it a second thought. I don't know... it is what it is.... Age is just a number, right? :)

     I'm excited about the next 10 years. DH and I have good jobs, and I feel like I'm in a place where I can move my career along as quickly as I want. There are lots of opportunities on the horizon. Also, we're new parents and we are looking forward to all the adventures that come along with starting a family. In talking to some friends about it - I really think we're going to rock our 30's. :)

  • I just turned 42 so I can't relate. I didn't feel this way at 29 either.
  • I am right there with you Tiny. I just mostly feel like I can't believe I will be 30! I think once it gets here it won't be a big deal but it's probably just the fact that we won't be in our 20's anymore. I will be 30 in October next year.

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  • I turned 30 one year ago today (ie today is my 31st birthday). I looked at how blessed I was and the number became irrelevant.  I make jokes about how "old" I am but really life has never been better.

     

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  • Um... no. 30 is young. The idea that 30 is old comes from a previous generation where you were destined to die alone if you weren't married and reproducing by 30. My 30s have been the best years of my life and I can say the same for pretty much everyone I know. I turn 39 this month and can't wait for the year to fly by so I can turn 40 and have an excuse for a really kickass party.
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  • I didn't even think twice about it. For me turning 30 was no different than turning 25. But I think it is because I had a good bit of me time in my mid 20s. I didn't meet DH until I was 27, we got married when I was 31, and I had Evan about 3 months after I turned 35. (I turn 37 in 11 days.)

    My 35th birthday was the one that bothered me, but I think it was because I was turning 35 and was pregnant with my first child. My worries centered around being an old mom. But I turned 35 and nothing changed. I didn't worry about it and I didn't feel any older than I had the month before. When I had Evan I thought my age would bother me, but I had so much else to focus on I didn't worry.

    My attitude is that age is what you make of it. I have more life experience now, but I don't feel old. I learned everything happens is time, so why try to get to the next milestone without enjoying the ride. My great-aunt is 97, still lives in her own home, gardens, and quilts. She lives in the now and isn't too resistant to change and she has/is living a long happy life. 

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  • honestly, i wanted to be 30 my whole life.  it always seemed to be the perfect age -- i figured life would be a little settled by then, i'd still be relatively free to do things, i had dh...   so, for me, turning 30 was the best.  i love my 30s.

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  • imagerayskit10:
    Um... no. 30 is young. The idea that 30 is old comes from a previous generation where you were destined to die alone if you weren't married and reproducing by 30. My 30s have been the best years of my life and I can say the same for pretty much everyone I know. I turn 39 this month and can't wait for the year to fly by so I can turn 40 and have an excuse for a really kickass party.

    Exactly this except I doubt I have a kickass 40th party next year.  I'll take a day of rest :-)

  • I guess I?m just weird then. Lol

     

    You know what I think it is? I think it could just be hormones and the fact that I just had a life changing event (the birth of my second child) and there is a lot going on right now. I feel I?ve had a lot of anxiety since her birth but I know what the cause is. A stressful job, trying to balance it all, and sleep deprivation. She is still not sleeping through the night. Also dealing with my pesky muscle knots and it?s different for me because I?ve always been the picture of health and to me, it?s like ?Oh no, my body hurts more now because I?m getting old?. I don?t know, just a lot going on.

     

    I do feel better though after reading all these positive responses.

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    I guess I?m just weird then. Lol

     

    You know what I think it is? I think it could just be hormones and the fact that I just had a life changing event (the birth of my second child) and there is a lot going on right now. I feel I?ve had a lot of anxiety since her birth but I know what the cause is. A stressful job, trying to balance it all, and sleep deprivation. She is still not sleeping through the night. Also dealing with my pesky muscle knots and it?s different for me because I?ve always been the picture of health and to me, it?s like ?Oh no, my body hurts more now because I?m getting old?. I don?t know, just a lot going on.

     

    I do feel better though after reading all these positive responses.

    I think babies are good at making us feel old. Your body goes through so much and they require so much physical and emotional care. In 7 months from now when you are actually turning 30 I am sure you will feel much differently.

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    imageTinybride08:

    I guess I?m just weird then. Lol

     

    You know what I think it is? I think it could just be hormones and the fact that I just had a life changing event (the birth of my second child) and there is a lot going on right now. I feel I?ve had a lot of anxiety since her birth but I know what the cause is. A stressful job, trying to balance it all, and sleep deprivation. She is still not sleeping through the night. Also dealing with my pesky muscle knots and it?s different for me because I?ve always been the picture of health and to me, it?s like ?Oh no, my body hurts more now because I?m getting old?. I don?t know, just a lot going on.

     

    I do feel better though after reading all these positive responses.

    I think babies are good at making us feel old. Your body goes through so much and they require so much physical and emotional care. In 7 months from now when you are actually turning 30 I am sure you will feel much differently.

    Oh, I totally agree with this! I was always in pretty good shape. But after having Helen, I feel like I'm falling apart. My knees hurt really bad for the first 5 months or so, that got better and now my feet hurt. My posture went to hell in a handbasket from nursing (I think?), and I still have a quite a bit of weight to lose. However, I think we have some great examples of REALLY fit moms right here on our Houston board, and they inspire me daily! I feel kind of unhealthy (for lack of a better word?) right now, but I'm confident that I'll get back to feeling good by next June. :)

  • Honestly I never thought much about it - age is what you make of it! lol!

    I think I still act like I'm 18... some of the time.

  • Just remember; its only a number.  In six years, I will be 50.  I don't feel like I am 44 and I certainly don't look like I am 44.  Now granted I don't have kids and maybe it might be slightly different.  But age really is just a number.  As long as you are healthy and happy, you will always be 29!!... 

     

    Ok so I tell everyone every year on my birthday it's the XXth anniversary of my 29th birthday.. but I do it out of fun.  

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  • Actually, I was happy about it.  I finally felt like "booya b!tches, I'm a GROWN UP NOW!!"
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  • The only negative memory I have of turning 30 was getting dumped by my boyfriend of three years. In the end though, obviously, that ended up being the best thing ever. I agree, my 30s have been so much more fun, and I don't feel any older at 37 even if I have a lot more gray hair. :)
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  • I had bad anxiety too! But now that I am 30 its like, oh yea I'm 30. I finally feel like an adult :)
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  • My 30's have been exponentially better than my 20's.  You'll rock your 30's.  Promise ;-)
  • No.  I was in a really good place.  I had just quit a job that made me miserable and I was 3 months away from getting married.  I'm having more anxiety now, about turning 35, but that stems from our issues getting pg.
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  • I didn't really worry about it.  I'm 35 now.  Sometimes I wonder who I turned into an "adult", I really don't feel like one.  The gray hair and wrinkes are another story.  DH is 9 years older, so I always feel young :)
  • I definitely had a bit of anxiety about turning 30, but it was more because I was still single and childless. I think it's normal to think about mortality when you hit a milestone birthday.  I had some difficult things happen in my 30s, but overall, they turned out to be fantastic--much better than my 20s, by far.

    When I hit 40, and I realized that, most likely, my life is at least halfway over...THAT has been hard.  But it's also made me much more aware of my health, and it reinforced my thankfulness of what my life has brought me. 2 years in, my 40s have been great. 

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  • I also turn 30 in June! Yeah us!

    I've never had anxiety about getting older, I actually look forward to it and can't wait to turn 30. I think that stems from people always saying I'm younger than I am. While that is a great thing I always feel like I'm trying to be older.

  • I did not handle turning 30 very well at all. I think I had 3 parties because I thought if I am going to turn 30 I need to live it up. I was very upset I was getting older and it did not help that a girlfriend of my DH's friend said that I looked good for MY AGE. Really!!!

     Anyway, I am 35 now and wish I was 30 again and I am sure when I am 40 I will be looking fondly back at a time when I was 35.

     

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  • Honestly, I had a harder time turning 29 and the months leading up to 30 than I did turning 30. What you are feeling is 100% normal!
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  • I didn't feel it at 29 or 30... 32 is coming up for me and that's my freak out number. ack!
  • imageRed_Dahlia:

    I'm also turning 30 in June, and haven't really given it a second thought. I don't know... it is what it is.... Age is just a number, right? :)

     I'm excited about the next 10 years. DH and I have good jobs, and I feel like I'm in a place where I can move my career along as quickly as I want. There are lots of opportunities on the horizon. Also, we're new parents and we are looking forward to all the adventures that come along with starting a family. In talking to some friends about it - I really think we're going to rock our 30's. :)

    This is how I felt when I turned 30.  In my field you don't have a lot of credibility until you have at least 5-7 years of experience.  By 29 I had 10 years but most thought I was still a newbie.  Turning 30 felt like I was legitimizing my "adulthood."  And I was pregnant and had been married for a year, had just bought a home - I was so excited about the next 10 years.

    My initial reaction to this post was not to even come inside because my only thoughts were snarky and eye rolling.  In current times it is totally possible and extremely likely to live until you are 80 or 100 years old.  The thought about dying is only on my horizon now that my In-laws are approaching that point, and my grandparents in their 80s are there.

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  • i'm 30 (as of just a few months ago) and i prefer to see it as a beginning rather than an end.  it was for a lot of people: www.wheniwas30.com
  • I've never seen the point in stressing over birthdays.  Getting older certainly beats the alternative.

    The worst thing about turning 30 for me was that Hurricane Ike blew through the week before, no one had power and the city was still half closed down so we didn't really do anything.  

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  • imageCharlotteL:
    I turned 30 one year ago today (ie today is my 31st birthday). I looked at how blessed I was and the number became irrelevant.  I make jokes about how "old" I am but really life has never been better.

    imagerayskit10:
    Um... no. 30 is young. The idea that 30 is old comes from a previous generation where you were destined to die alone if you weren't married and reproducing by 30. My 30s have been the best years of my life and I can say the same for pretty much everyone I know. I turn 39 this month and can't wait for the year to fly by so I can turn 40 and have an excuse for a really kickass party.

    Ditto the above sentiments! I finally have felt like a real adult in my 30s. Don't sweat it!

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  • I just turned 50. Before I turned 30 it seemed like a big deal but in reality my 30's were probably the best years. Now is not too bad either as I got married a year ago for the first time. The thought of mortality strikes at times. Use that to remind you to make plans to live life to the fullest.
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