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BR: Baby Shower Advice (long)
One of my bridesmaids is getting married next April in Miami. She's going to have her bridal shower in March also in Miami. She never really seemed like she was interested in being a bridesmaids and had hinted several times during my long engagement that I don't need to have bridesmaids at all. When I told her I was pregnant and may not be able to come to her wedding, she told me about her bridal shower in March and asked to me at least come to that. During that same conversation, she offered to throw me a baby shower. She's always been flaky and I feel like she's only offering because she wasn't a very good bridesmaid.
Two days ago she texted me and asked how I felt about having the baby shower in Miami the weekend before her bridal shower. Two things that bothered me: 1) I don't want the shower in Miami and 2) I feel like she's doing this because it's more convenient for her.
I told her that I didn't want to travel so much in a short amount of time and that since she'll be so busy with her wedding, she didn't have to worry about throwing me a shower at all. She said that there's plenty of time and she'll definitely at least make the favors and whatnot. So yesterday I got a text from her saying that since there's so much time to go until March and if she starts making all the stuff now, she can definitely throw me a shower.
My issue is that I don't really want a shower in Miami. I went to college in Atlanta, so it would be convenient for people there since it's closer, but most likely my college friends would fly anyways so the convenience of driving wouldn't really be an issue. Also, due to the cost, I doubt my family could come. But, on the other hand, I think she'd be the only one throwing me a shower so I feel like I should just suck it up and go along with it.
Should I say I don't want it in Miami or just not say anything?
Re: BR: Baby Shower Advice (long)
If you don't want it, don't have it. Just say "thank you so much for offering, but there's really no need to throw me a shower." and leave it at that.
A lot of times people think their doing the mom-to-be a HUGE favor by throwing her a shower, but it just turns out to be added stress for everyone.
That's what I was going for when I told her that it wasn't necessary to throw me a shower. I'll text her again today and make it more clear.
It wouldn't be such a big stress if she didn't want it in Miami! I know she's trying to be nice but geez, what a pain that would be for me to travel there.
I agree...I'd just thank her for offering but clarify that you really don't want it in Miami.
And congrats btw! Hope you're feeling well!
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Thanks Rach! I'm generally feeling pretty good except for the past two weeks when morning sickness really seems to have kicked in. We had to drive to Falls Church at 6 pm on Wednesday and the stop and go traffic made me vomit in the car. Luckily I had a bag. But yea, something about these past two weeks has made me feel nauseous.
Aw sorry to hear that. You should be feeling better soon though! Have you tried Preggie Pop Drops? They helped me a little when I was nauseous.
http://www.amazon.com/Preggie-Pop-Drops-Pieces-Assortment/dp/B000EILS0Y
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