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Ugh! MIL wants cheating FIL back. WTH?!?
She doesn't want to be alone. She misses him. WTF?
He has a five year old daughter she just found out about three weeks ago. He's been cheating on MIL for the past twelve years (she just discovered that in September).
And she still wants him back. My DH is beside himself. He can't even wrap his head around her wanting FIL back. I get it a bit - she's facing a starkly different future than she anticipated but still, no.
And FIL is such an absolute POS. My SIL did a dumb FB move and sent a mass FB post to all of friends of FIL's GF blasting the woman as a husband stealing wh*re. Klassy move. But now FIL is saying that is the reason why he's not coming home.
And I found out last night that FIL was not even going to call his kids to tell him the reason for the split - he was going to text them until MIL set him straight. Can you even imagine getting a text from your dad saying "Your mom and I are splitting. I've been with someone else for the past 12 years and oh btw, you have a 5 yo half sister."
And MIL is pissed at her therapist for "making FIL leave". Uhm no, that's some seriously misdirected anger MIL. I love you but get pi$$ed at FIL, not the therapist.
***Headdesk***
Re: Ugh! MIL wants cheating FIL back. WTH?!?
I forgot the best part. FIL didn't want to choose between MIL and the other woman. He wanted to spend a few days in each location every week and pretend everything was fine whenever the kids came to visit.
I've thought for a long time that FIL had serious emotional or even mental issues. I even discussed the possbility of a tumor with DH, MIL and his siblings. But hands down this takes the crazy cakes. Trying to convince MIL to share him with a second family.
Why are you guys all up in each others' sh*t?
Its none of your business. You need to tell each of them that and stick to it.
I really can't imagine being married for so long and raising adult children together only to find out that my DH had a decade long affair and a 5 year old love child. That has to be really scary for her. It is going to take some time for her to heal and move past this. I am not a therapist or anything, but it seems like misplaced anger and missing him could very well be part of a normal reaction. Kind of like how there are different stages of grief.
This. Exactly. See below:
Why are you guys all up in each others' sh*t? Its none of your business. You need to tell each of them that and stick to it.