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First possibility of a date after divorce - AHHH - advice please!!

amybeby77amybeby77
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Okay guys... I have been divorced for not quite a year yet, and I got asked out today (totally caught off guard). I was pretty excited about the idea of it, but here's the situation... I'm an SLP and this guy is a dad to one of my kids. I have several opinions from friends, but I thought I would ask some strangers who have been through that first date after divorce thing. What do you guys think... should I go for it???
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Re: First possibility of a date after divorce - AHHH - advice please!!

  • silly.goosesilly.goose
    Way to go on the whole getting asked out thing, it's such a great feeling!  What does SLP stand for?
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  • amybeby77amybeby77
    Speech Language Pathologist. I treat his son for articulation issues and am in the process of evaluating his daughter for the same thing. It just seems like a HUGE conflict of interest. But if he were just a single dad of a different kid in the school, I would probably say yes....
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  • silly.goosesilly.goose
    Gotcha, that's tough.  I guess depending on how often you see his kids, and how weird it makes you feel, you have to make that call.  I don't think it would be a huge deal necessarily, but you would probably want to have some pretty firm boundaries and also not tell his kids right away if you were to start dating.  Honestly, I don't know what I'd do (probably ask here) - I don't have kids, and I've never dated anyone with kids, so I'm an amateur at this subject.  The other ladies on this board should be able to give you some good feedback though. 
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  • kjewellkjewell member

    Honestly, as long as you can deal with any potential awkwardness if it doesn't work out it doesn't seem like that big of a deal.  I could see if you were a regular teacher how it might be a conflict as you could possibly sway his kids grades as a favor to him or something.

    However, I think as long as it doesn't effect your job, there are no actual rules against it is fine.

    "You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness."
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  • Sapphire70Sapphire70
    Ditto - as long as it doesn't affect your job and you want to go out with him - go!
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  • amybeby77amybeby77
    Thanks for all the advice! I went back and forth all weekend long, but finally called him today and we're going out this weekend!!! Pretty nervous about it, but at least it's just date one... as he said "all first dates are an interview anyway" :)
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