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Tell me I am not weird
I have been with SO for over a month now and he thinks it is really strange that my family knows nothing of his existence. I was raised by my dad and we do talk all the time (A few times a week) but just not really about my love life. I find it odd to bring that kind of stuff up. SO wants to come to my graduation in December but my dad is going to be there and SO thinks it would be weird if that is where my dad finds out that I am dating someone new.
Would you be put off if you were dating someone for awhile and they never mentioned you to their family?
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Re: Tell me I am not weird
That is kind of what I was thinking. I think he mainly thinks it is odd because my dad will call when we are together and if my dad asks me what I am up to I will just say something like, "Oh, just making dinner and getting ready to go watch the game." So he thinks I am hiding him. If he asked me who I was going with obviously I would tell him but I don't feel like making a big production over it.
Eh, I find it mildy odd. Especially since you've talked to your dad on the phone while your SO is sitting right there in the room. I can completely understand not getting into the details of your love life with your dad, but maybe just a "hey, I've been hanging out with this guy and he's pretty cool".
With my XH, my mom knew i was talking to someone, but I didn't really talk about him in any kind of detail for 6 weeks or so. WIth FF, it's a little different because she's the one who kind of set us up.
ETA: And you answer your original question, yes, I'd be a slightly bothered if my SO didn't mention me to his family after we've been dating for a while. Especially if we were exclusive.
I think it depends on the family. In my family, as soon as any of us started dating someone, the family knew.
But I agree with the PP that after a month is one thing, 6 months is another
I don't think it's weird at all that you haven't mentioned him after only a month. I agree that meeting at your graduation would be a little awkward, but it's a month away still. Maybe in a couple weeks, if you feel comfortable with it, you could casually mention him to your dad and see where it goes from there. If it's going smooth, mention he would like to be there to support you at graduation and ask him to meet you guys for dinner or something beforehand to meet.
Don't feel rushed to tell people about your relationship until you're comfortable with it though!! Good luck!
Nah, I always did this, too (kept it to myself at first). ESPECIALLY a month in. Are you kidding? If I told my parents about every guy who came along... well... I just would never do that, ha.
I told my parents about The Artist after about 2 months (I live 800+ miles away from my parents; his aren't in town either). But in the past, I have gone longer.
My family is not exactly a "share everything" kind of family, so I think my parents would ALSO find it odd if I were mentioning every guy after the first few weeks. They'd be like, Uh, ok? Talk to us again when you're sure it's going to stick, ha.
My dad and I play phone tag a lot since I have a weird schedule and he is busy at work so when he calls I usually try to take it. Usually SO and I are just hanging out relaxing so it doesn't bother him. If we were at dinner or something it would be another thing.