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three-some advice...
so my husband and i have considered having a threesome with another woman. i guess its always been a fantasy of both of ours and so we wanted to try it out. we had found a woman would was going to "do it" with us, but because of the strange circumstances it did not work out. (she was HIS co-worker...) so my question is..what are the down sides to having a threesome when you are married? what are the after effects?...then..if the couple decides to go through with it..how do you find someone who understands "no strings attached" and won't come running after your husband afterwards. know what i mean? and if I'm thinking illogically please someone tell me.
Re: three-some advice...
I'd side eye that in a hurry and give serious thought to why your H fancied a coworker for the threesome.
Why am I thinking your H has a thing for her...but putting her in the sack with you with your okay is giving HIM the okay to fool around on you?
Something is fishy here. Table any more discussion about a threesome and get down to the bare bones with what's going on with your H. Methinks he's fooling around, or is going to, in the very near future.
I agree somthing is not right.
There is no way I would have a three-some in a relationship not to mention with my husband.
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I think he's a skank for even considering the idea --- willing to bet this idea is his and his alone and he somehow conned you into it.
Rethink him. You need him -- and his wonderful suggestions -- like a a fish needs a bike.
And ugh...maybe my mind is running away with me but he wants to delve into this dicey territory with a coworker? Hasn't this ass ever heard of sexual harassment?
You and he are married a year and a half and this jackass wants greener pastures already??? RETHINK him. Something is weird here.
These 3 words, followed by 3 more:
Run like hell.
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See if he's game for the idea.
Before you agree to have a threesome ask yourself if you would be upset if your H cheated on you. If the answer is yes, don't do it. I've seen successful "open" marriages, but I could never imagine it working for me. If you do go for it, you probably shouldn't do it with anyone that either of you see on a regular basis.
Some things in life are better left to a professional. Electrical work, delivering babies, threesomes.
Odds are real good a decent whore will have a couple group-encounters under her belt, and will probably not have any issues getting YOU off as well. Do your research though, there's plenty of online resources that will help you pick the right one for both of you.
I could not agree more here. I think it's utter madness to even consider inviting a coworker of either one of you into your bed--what's that saying about sh#$ing where you sleep, or eat, or something?
Personally, I think threesomes are an epic fail 99% of the time, and better left to single people who aren't risking a MARRIAGE by exploring that fantasy. But if your relationship is strong enough to handle a third party, you absolutely need to consider the ramifications of WHO that someone is. This is a woman your husband works with--without you--who he will see frequently after having sex with her. Seriously?!
As many PP have said, I'd be a tad concerned about the fact that he had someone in mind.
Going forward, if that's not a deal breaker, there's got to be rules to this other person in the bedroom. For me and mine (at the risk of TMI) there's certain things he's not allowed to touch/do. Biggest one is kissing to me. I don't know why, I just think that's a very special part of our relationship and I don't want to share that.
I also get to pick the woman, time and place. As for contact, it's an NSA thing, with the exception that if we decide to move forward for a second time, I take care of the contact with her.
He's just excited of the fact he gets to have that experience with me. As long as the rules don't get broke, we have a loving intact relationship. But you need to be 100% happy and secure in your relationship.
I think there?s nothing wrong with spicing things up with a three-some, though I would NEVER do that, it doesn?t bother me thinking of other couples trying it.
What I don??t like about your post is the IDEA of bringing a co-worker into the picture. I agree with the other nesties that there is something very fishy about that.
If your DH wanted to do a three-some, he should have NEVER bring in someone close to him, as someone said, it?s better to seek "professional help".
I wouldn?t trust your hubby, sorry.