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dating - offering to pay/ split the check
I usually let a date pick up the check on a first date... I am seeing this new guy and we are going on our second official date tomorrow night. Think we are going out to dinner. He paid on the first date (we went out to brunch). So should I offer to pick up the check on our second date? Split it? How do you handle this?
Re: dating - offering to pay/ split the check
ahh.. i mean i let b pay on the first couple of dates... i offered but he said absolutely not.
i usually offer and he usually says no but i would say its nice to just offer so they dont think you're like some golddigging hooker
What exactly do you say when you offer? Yes, I suck at dating
I offer to pay as well. I get denied 99% of the time but I think it is a nice gesture and shows that you don't expect that he pays for everything i.e. that you aren't a golddigging hooker like mentioned above.
I usually just get my wallet out, open it up, and say something like how much was it? Or if they insist on paying I will offer up the tip.
Something like this or an overt attempt to get my wallet out of my bag while asking to contribute.
I was always more comfortable offering to take someone out BEFORE the check came. SPLITTING the check never felt right with me, but I would offer to take a guy out for dinner, breakfast ("oh, let me pay this time" - before we went eat), or the movies, coffee, etc.
Offering is always nice. I'm trying to think back to when FF and I started dating (7 months ago). I know he paid for our drinks the first date (while I was in the bathroom lol). And then he bought me lunch during the week on our second date. Hmmm...I don't know the first time he let me buy, but I was happy that he did. I don't think it's fair for the guy to always pay.
Now, if they start EXPECTING you to pay, that's a whole other issue. I have no problem buying once in a while, or if he buys I'll leave the tip. But once it starts being expected, that's a problem.
I would just whip out your wallet/debit card/cash and snatch the bill as fast as you can and be like (jokingly) "heyyy easy killer this one is on me" (or something appropriate for the situation, i.e. "i'd really like to treat this time")
You should just slide the check closer to him while giving him an eyeful of cleavage and a sultry gaze...hahaha...that's what I do;)
J/k. The other suggestions are great. If you want to pay, let him know upfront. If you want to look considerate, pull out your wallet and ask how much. If you want to look like a gold digging hooker, try my trick;)