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how can i do i get the courage to end this?
hi. i have 2 kids. i have my own issues..but my husband is mean and nasty....
read my post below to see what the current argument is...
i thought marriage was forever..we are in therapy...buut i cant take this anymore...when i bring it to his attention he says why cant our marriage just be easy? he wont change...he undermines me all day in front of our kids....
how do i have the strength to end this? is there any way to end this peacefully? i feel so sad, i want to do everything to ,ake this work.....he diesnt respect me...
Re: how can i do i get the courage to end this?
Please go to a counselor on your own and talk through those questions with a qualified professional -- this could really make a huge difference in where you head in your life in the future -- HUGE. Since your H is putting no effort into either your joint counseling or the marriage itself, I'd go ahead and not bother with that any more and start focusing on yourself, for both your own and your kids' sake.
It sounds to me like you are just afraid to be on your own. What in the world has your H done to deserve a woman who would try to move heaven and earth to stay with him? If what he wants most out of life is to be a huge_fucking_asshole all the time, he can go do it somewhere else.
Ditto - counseling for YOU on your own. You will learn alot about yourself, gain an insight into why and how you chose this guy for a partner (and how to avoid a similar mistake in the future), counseling will offer a great deal of support and help you find your strength and direction to move forward.
Meanwhile - see a lawyer to understand the divorce process in your state, your rights and obligations, and how to protect yourself financially - what to do and not do at this point.
ETA: Even if you are not ready to file for divorce - see a lawyer NOW!