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eHarmony? Is it really that lame??

So, a few weeks ago, I started to fill out an eHarm profile. It matched me with a bunch of people, but I didn't officially sign up. I finally signed up tonight, after my sister and a friend convinced me that it was supposed to be better than Match. Went through the long profile sign up, etc.

I went to tell it to "find new matches" and it said "It couldn't find new matches for me at this time".WTF? AM I that picky? I guess I'm stuck with the original ones, which are a few weeks old so who knows if they are active and honestly, not one that I'm that impressed with. And the profiles seem to be lacking in originality. Not sure if that is eHarmony's design fault, the guys fault, my area, or what.

Anyways...I have 3 days before I can get a refund. And honestly, I'm thinking refund at this point.

Is it really this lame? I was expecting more. But I'm also impatient. I just don't want to waste the $ (I got a good deal and din't sign up for a long term contract thing).

 

The Nestie formally known as....

Re: eHarmony? Is it really that lame??

  • It is....

    Even though I know some people who have had good luck w/ it, I found it to be very expensive for the # of men it matches you up with and many of the men that were my matches were too far away (I know you can adjust this feature, and I can't recall the exact choices they give you, but I feel like it was either within 20 miles or within 60, so I chose the larger because I didn't want to rule out ones that were 40-ish miles away), or I was not attracted to.

     

  • It's eHarmony's fault.  Unlike other dating sites that you give you a lot of choices up front, eHarmony releases potential dates over time.  They want you to just look at a few guys at a time and connect with them before moving on to someone else if need be.  I didn't get a lot of it and found Match to work better for me.
  • eHarmony is about the lamest one out there

    and the ratio of men to women is off... it is the only site where there are 2 women for every man.  I hated it and thought it was a waste of money.  Match is way better

  • Personally, I hated the format.  You only get to look at a couple guys at a time, and getting thru all the little "stages" seems to take forever - most guys would get to stage 2 with me and then I'd never hear from them again. 
  • insert sarcasm here:

    My StbX had great luck with it while we were together and I was pregnant with our second baby.  He got two matches right away!

    end sarcasm

     

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  • I guess I am odd man out here, but I liked eharm way better than match. Yes, there were less guys to sort through (I kind of liked that though), but the quality of guys I met though eharm was 10x better than match. I met my boyfriend on eharm. It took about 6 months and many first dates with others before I met him, but I met him and that's what matters.
  • I wonder if it depends on your area?  I haven't tried it before but I wonder if you live somewhere more populated it might work better?  I live in a small, rural area and I bet there aren't many people on there.  But I've also never looked.  I think that match is the main one people do around here, from what I've seen.
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  • I tried it and had horrible luck. And I live in a pretty well populated area. The guys I met were nice enough I suppose, but all seemed to be very socially awkward. Or maybe those are just the type of people eHarmony thought I belonged with. Ha!
  • Pdx18- I think we're in the same area? So, 2 guys so far that are cute and seem normal and not lame....so, we'll see. Sigh. I told my sister I would try it.
    The Nestie formally known as....
  • imageRedRedWine2:
    Pdx18- I think we're in the same area? So, 2 guys so far that are cute and seem normal and not lame....so, we'll see. Sigh. I told my sister I would try it.

    Are we??? That's fun. I mean there is no harm in trying right? The guys I met were nice, just awkward. It could be worse. Let us know how it goes! 

  • imageachase123:
    I wonder if it depends on your area?  I haven't tried it before but I wonder if you live somewhere more populated it might work better?  I live in a small, rural area and I bet there aren't many people on there.  But I've also never looked.  I think that match is the main one people do around here, from what I've seen.

    I think location could have a lot to do with it. I am in LA and had good luck. I the guys that got past 1 date I met on eharm; all the match.com guys I met were one date wonders. Match was like a bar online to me.

    My cousin, who is the same age as me and we are very similar in a lot of things, had horrid luck on eharm and met her current dh on match. They are in the DC area.

  • imageFormerlyAK:
    I guess I am odd man out here, but I liked eharm way better than match. Yes, there were less guys to sort through (I kind of liked that though), but the quality of guys I met though eharm was 10x better than match. I met my boyfriend on eharm. It took about 6 months and many first dates with others before I met him, but I met him and that's what matters.

    Ditto. 

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    We're kind of going out.
  • imagepdx18:

    imageRedRedWine2:
    Pdx18- I think we're in the same area? So, 2 guys so far that are cute and seem normal and not lame....so, we'll see. Sigh. I told my sister I would try it.

    Are we??? That's fun. I mean there is no harm in trying right? The guys I met were nice, just awkward. It could be worse. Let us know how it goes! 

    Yah, there seem to be alot of "akwards" on there...but I guess perhaps better than players, etc. But I'd still like a fine medium of just normal and nice. :)

    The Nestie formally known as....
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