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catherinnnnne · November 2011

We've been married about a year, and I'm on birth control pills. We're really not ready to have kids, financially or otherwise, so we also use condoms. Every time. At first it was OK, but I think sex is less enjoyable than it otherwise would be for both of us. Is this backup method overkill? Does anyone else use two forms of BC as a married couple? Just interested in some other perspectives ...

theluckiest555 · November 2011

How long have you been on the birth control pills? I believe that the longer you are on them, generally the more effective they become. As long as you have been on them for more than a month and take them every day around the same time, they should be more than 99% effective. That being said, I can understand why you would want to use two forms of BC. My H and I used to do that as well, we are in a similar position as you are in terms of not being ready for kids. If you think that the condom is making your sex life less enjoyable, you could either try a different kind of condom, and if that doesn't work maybe you could try spermicide? We sometimes use that as well (some kinds of condoms will have spermicide on them.) You really don't HAVE to use another form of BC with the pill, but I understand that it gives you piece of mind. I'm sure your gyno could give you better suggestions than I have, but I definitely do not think it's weird that you are using two forms of BC. Good luck!

katjones86 · November 2011

bc pills are pretty much 100% IF you're careful. if you get an extra period use backup cause yours pills aren't working. antibiotics mess with your bc. sometimes you can become immune to certain pills. take the pill at exactly the same time every day and keep it at the approved temp and condoms aren't necessary.

Koneko · November 2011

That is a little unusual, but not unreasonably paranoid. I think most people I know who are down to just the one form of birth control are prepared to be parents if the fates align against them. We only use the one form, but it's the hormonal IUD, so it's marginally better odds than the pill.

Maybe try a bit of natural family planning and only use condoms in conjunction with your bcp when you're at your most fertile? It should be pretty easy to track since your cycles are regulated by the pill.

TarponMonoxide · November 2011

I'd use a condom for backup if I was taking a med that could attenuate the effectiveness of the pill --- antibiotics are one of those meds.

You can skip the condom otherwise. There's no reason to use it.

QuasiHuman · November 2011

The pill is usually a lock, assuming you're taking them correctly and all that jazz. Keep in mind, hormonal birth-control can upset your sex-drive in a big way, so that might be a factor here as well. Or it might even just be garden variety relationship cooldown.

Myself and my wife just stick with condoms after a rather unsavory experience with Depo-Provera.

binzy2524 · November 2011

Sorry your post title drives me nuts. It's WEIRD, not Wiered. Thanks continue on

artbyallie · November 2011

Koneko:
That is a little unusual, but not unreasonably paranoid. I think most people I know who are down to just the one form of birth control are prepared to be parents if the fates align against them. We only use the one form, but it's the hormonal IUD, so it's marginally better odds than the pill.
Maybe try a bit of natural family planning and only use condoms in conjunction with your bcp when you're at your most fertile? It should be pretty easy to track since your cycles are regulated by the pill.

You can't chart on the pill because the pill prevents ovulation.

Fluffernut · November 2011

Like other posters have said, you don't need two methods assuming the pill is taken correctly. But if you prefer two methods, have you considered a diaphragm or cervical cap instead of the condom?

Knena&her3loves · November 2011

If your not each other's firsts, I would get STD/STI tested before you ditch the condoms.

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