August 2009 Weddings
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Re: QOTD Monday (Worries)
My biggest worry right now is how we're going to handle the money situation while I'm on mat leave.
April/June is a notoriously hard time for us because Derek has to pay out all his taxes. We generally spend the better part of the year recovering from that. I am extremely greatful for the mat leave we get here in Canada, but a year at less than half my pay is going to make this tough. I need to find out if I get any sort of top-up through work.
That being said, there are things that will work for us. My LOC is thisclose to being paid off, and at the rate we've been paying it down lately, that's pretty much a free pay cheque. Derek's car payments will be done early next year, which will help a lot too, but then again, we need to buy a new car by the end of this year.
I know we'll do it, I know we'll figure it out, but it's stressing me out.
We'll just not tell H about this little fact, m'kay?
I am worried about DH and his job situation. He is at a crossroads at what he wants to do. I know it will all work out but I would like him to not be as stressed and to be happier.
I am also worried workwise. With my boss being gone I have been here at the office 6 days a week for the past two weeks continuing on into this weekend as well. I am tired and stressed. I am trying to finish presentation boards for a meeting on Wednesday. Which means I had to select and order new products. I hope they come in on time and are good.
I also have had a potential new client that I have been talking back and forth to. I do not handle (nor do I want to handle) the contracts part of this job so I am talking to the guy but need my boss to be back to talk figures.
Also I hate the giant bowl of candy here. I can't seem to stay away from it.
My biggest worry right now is for the future of the law firm I work for. We've been having some financial trouble for the last couple of months and it's put everyone on edge. We're probably looking at some layoffs pretty soon. The A/P and A/R part of my job has been so stressful these past couple of months, I swear my hair is turning gray!
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This is my worry, too. Our organization is grant funded and it's a really tough environment for getting new funding, especially when you don't do direct service. I've been looking for another job, but I need to make what I am making now and jobs that pay this well and DON'T require a CPA license are few and far between.
The Daily Nugget
Cycle 12, IUI #1 - 33m post wash 10/15/10 = BFN
Cycle 13, IUI #2 - 15m post wash 11/16/10 = BFP, missed m/c, D&C 1/3/11
Cycle 15 - 18, IUI #3-6 = BFN
Cycle 20, IUI #7 = BFP!, missed m/c 9/14, D&C
DE-IVF Aug. 2012: ER 8/30 11R, 7M, 4F; ET 9/4 returned 2
Beta 9/18 #1-820, #2-1699, #3-7124
10/1 1st u/s measuring right on track, 125 bpm
I worry about being in D.C. for the long haul. I like the city, I like my job, I like where we live, but I don't want to be here forever. I know Josh has no desire to stay here long term, but I sometimes worry that if we don't have a reason to move (like a random offer or a kid comes along), then we'll never leave.
I worry that we'll let inertia get the best of us: that we just won't make a decision on kids and let the clock run out, that we just won't move, that we'll just stick with D.C. because we make decent salaries and are able to sock away for retirement. And while we make efforts to get away and enjoy ourselves, I worry about how work is too much of our lives.
I guess there are times when I just don't feel like an active player in my life: get up, got to work, go home, go to gym, go to bed. I want something more for us, he does too, but what? Who the hell knows. But I know this: it's not in D.C.
I think I'm on the same boat as most of you ladies. My biggest worry right now is finding a job soon. I'm graduating in 5 weeks and I would love to find a job soon after that. Unfortunately the economy is not looking good right now and job search has been a bit difficult. The worst part is that both DH and I will be looking for jobs so I just hope one of us finds something soon.
Obviously this delays our wish to TTC so I just hope to be able to start our lives as professionals soon.
I guess my biggest worry is that I'm not ready to have kids. We're trying (half-heartedly), but I find myself taking a big sigh of relief when I get my period. It's not so much that I don't want kids, it's more that I'm just really happy right now and I'm scared of losing that.
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Baby #2: Surprise BFP 9.19.12, EDD 5.24.13, natural m/c 10.19.13 at 9w
Even though we had a great u/s today, I still worry a lot about this baby. I feel confident, but I know that it is still early and anything can happen. I also worry about the fact that we are supposed to move back to the States when I am around 35 weeks. I love my OB and would love to deliver here in Germany. I love how attentive my doctor is, but I want to be closer to family and I am getting homesick.
If it's any consolation, I'm still not sure that I'm ready. I did, however, know that I was ready to take the whole trying thing seriously when I was bummed when I got my period.
((hugs)) to everyone else. And happy vibes.
We'll just not tell H about this little fact, m'kay?
I guess mine is much the same as everyone elses. I am a little worried about money for selfish reasons. We have been saving a good bit lately because we plan to book our disney vacation in January. Some idiot hit my car at the local grocery store so now we have to pay the 500 deductiable for that to get fixed since they did not stop and I have no way of finding out who it is.
I am worried we are going to spend to much with holidays coming up and our bills we have to renew (car insurance, house insurance, land taxes) at the end of the year and we won't get to go to disney.
I have a major problem with money and I always feel broke even if we have savings in the bank. I wish I could get over it, but money is a constant worry for me even though It shouldn't be. Dh and I both have great jobs and make good money. I think its because I just got so use to being broke when I was a single mom and never having anything. I am scared to go back to that. In the end it holds me back from geting things I want and doing things I want to do with my family not to mention it drives DH crazy.
Someone else said they feel lke they will never do anything just because of decisons. I am the same way I am afraid we will never buy a house because I am to scared to commit to the money portion of it even though I know we can afford it.
My biggest worry today is that I hurt my baby running my 5K race yesterday. I was having some pain while I ran (i know i went out too hard) and I just tried to slow down. The pain did go away after the race and I had no spotting but my next appt isn't until next Thursday and now I'm worried again. I did tell my one friend at work today who knows about the pregnancy and we went to the ER to see if one cerain nurse practitioner was there who we know would sneak me an ultrasound but she isn't in. The ER doc said if I'm concerned to go to OB triage at the other hospital. My compromise was to call my OB and the nurse said if I had no spotting to not be worried. So I"m going to try and relax.
I'm also worried about my job. I don't have an official letter from HR yet and I'm worried about getting screwed and not getting top off for my leave and worried about having a job to come back to.
Have you been having RLP? Mine seems so random, and can definitely be alarming until you pin point that that's the issue.
Maybe check Kijiji or Craigslist to see if there's a doppler for sale on the cheap near you.
We'll just not tell H about this little fact, m'kay?
Brangela - glad to hear the u/s went well. I worried every day right up until I delivered and even then was worried.
Ringy - I am always worried about DH and my relationship as well. Has it changed - yes, however date nights are life savers. I can not stress enough to make the commitment to have them, and stick to them. (and when you say date night, keep it at just you and V)
Kaesha - I was the same as you, however once I was pregnant everything became so different. True Story - on our way to the hospital to deliver, I grabbed DH hand, and asked him if he truly thought we were ready for children, as our lives were so easy. Obviously there was no turning back, but what I realize is that I can still do a lot of the things I want to do, it's just different now and I wouldn't change it for the world.
Rx - I agree with Raynes, if may be RLP. It can throw you off guard.
Big hugs to everyone, I hate tough times.
My biggest worry is that we won't be able to get pregnant and we'll move on to adoption and no one will want us and we won't ever get our baby, and in the process I will get more and more bitter and it will affect my job and DH and my relationship. And all of that would suck a lot.
Most of the time I am able to talk myself out of these worries and DH is great at assuring me that we will be parents someday, but I do feel myself starting to become more and more sad the longer we try unsuccessfully.
BFP 5/2/11, missed m/c, D&C 6/13/11
BFP 12/8/11--Little Girl E Born 8/22/12
raynes - I have had RLP a few times if I stand up quickly and I definitely know what those are. This was higher (higher than RLP but lower to right of my belly button). And it was pretty constant. It just hurt. And since it was an out and back course, I figured I had better keep going so I could make it back. I've just been fortunate to have no real pains throughout this pregnancy that when I have any pain, I have no idea if it's normal! I've not had a single cramp. Did you end up getting a doppler? I did look on kijiji a few weeks ago and there wasn't anything
I think I have to resign myself to the fact that I need to chill out and that these worries are just the beginning or years of worry and anxiety.
blender - I always keep you in my prayers that you get a BFP soon. I hope you either get some answers or a BFP soon. Also, I wish you lived near me and then we could run together. That would awesome.
ETA - to blender - you would have people knocking down your door to have you take care of their baby. You are awesome.
BFP 5/2/11, missed m/c, D&C 6/13/11
BFP 12/8/11--Little Girl E Born 8/22/12
Probably the one that is at the forefront right now is finances. That said, I am often able to talk myself down because up to this point we have always found a way.
The other huge one is my hubby's depression. I am always worried about him and trying to find ways to make it easier for he and I to cope. What worries me the most is what it is doing to our relationship and if he will resent me for pushing him to go to counselling. I am never sure if I am doing the right thing, or what the right thing is. When I think about what we are dealing with in regards to his anxiety and depression, money seems unimportant.
Blender: if you do move towards adopt I'm here for questions and advice.
I have 3 things that are stressing me out:
1. Never being able to carry a child/ren to term and having a lot of people around me who can is really freaking hard. Especially when people are ready for #2. It's going to be so much harder to be chosen a second time, we may never get a second child. The jealousy is the worst part.
2. The timing of our 2nd adoption. The adoption credit may be gone after 2012, if that's true and we aren't chosen again this summer, Myles will be an only child. (again it fing sucks being infertile)
3. I have to add a 2nd license and I'm not sure how to juggle school, work, and mommyhood.